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After figuring out that 4+ years together equals a long time to be together with someone, and double kudos if you both made it through high school and college still together, alive, and yes even happy, its time to start thinking of the next question of “what next”?. If he has been there through thick and thin doesn’t he deserve some more than “boyfriend”? Relationships are hard, and they are especially hard for two high school sweethearts whose colleges are on opposite sides of the country- Pasadena, CA and Orlando, FL. Since graduation, we have eradicated the wild beast formally known as college across 3,000 miles for 3 years and are now entering the phase of adulthood. Unfortunately for me little girl dreams don’t do well in big girl economic realities. Coming out of college broke, unemployed, and unsure not because of our strength but because of economic insecurities, we face many hard times ahead.
This isn’t a sympathy post but rather a harsh realization that fairy tales are not always the way they seem on paper or in your mind. How can two people who love each other so much be stuck because of one diamond ring. Sure it may be shallow for halting this blossoming relationship for a shiny piece of earth, but then where would our sense of stability and old fashioned personalities be? Surviving the distance is a feat we are more than willing to defend and be proud of. What we can’t defend how to get to the next couple of stepping stones to finally lead us together as one. Perhaps we can wish upon a star for greater things to come, or we can become creative and figure out a way to sell our glass slippers and turn that around for a down payment on a castle. My Prince Charming came free with purchase. Its not enough to settle for the best/shiniest/most expensive; you must be willing to love the one your with and be happy that your path may not be paved with gold but that path sure does lead to your own emerald city regardless of its monetary value.