it's been awhile

[nina0220]

Wow....it has been a very long time since I have posted a blog......I don't even know what to do anymore. I guess I will start with a little update.....things are good. I'm older....I work a lot....I play a lot......my personality was pretty well established even in my younger years, so most of my hobbies and traits are still there, perhaps more

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concerning love

[allyaneedisrick]

On issues of love I usually always in the end return to Plato's Symposium, which is almost entirely devoted to the subject. But to answer your question specifically... Why does Sex + Friendship = Love.... it doesn't, I think thats your disconnect. I know as a Pisces I always make every lil moment with someone of the opposite sex into a soulmate guided by fate to my open arms, some big romantic shindig, when in reality it isn't 1/3rd of what I make it. But in reality Friendship in itself = Love. Despite your differences don't you love Jonesy? Don't you love me? It may not be the crazy romantic love of Shakespeare, Soap Operas, and Silly Love Songs, but what is love other than the putting another's well-being ahead of your own. Buying 1% Milk instead of 2% because one of your parents or roommate prefers it, even though you would rather have 2%. Its saving up money you could spend on something you want to do something nice for someone else. That is what love is to me at least. Its easy I think in youth to love beautiful things... which is what Diotima's philosophy of Love touches on... that when something appears to deserve more, its easier to give them more. But I think with age and appreciation for the things that really matter, you find the beauty in all humans, short or tall, skinny or fat, blonde or ginger... you find that love is more than warm fuzzies and bunny rabbits... more than sex or dinner dates. Its about sacrificing for another's wellbeing, when they dont deserve it AND when they do. Which is why sex is held by many as the highest form of love... why its called love making. Because in the act, two souls live in the moment, and the moment alone. Both striving to make their partner reach climax and receive pleasure. Both not thinking about the next day, or problems in life, or fights they'd have, both submitting themselves to simply loving their partner despite all that. To give them the greatest thing they can give, their bodies, their souls, and the full attention of their mind. So to me saying Sex + Friendship = Love is ridiculous... because thats like saying Grand Slams + Ball Field = Baseball. Sure both are associated with Baseball... but Baseball isn't Grand Slams in Stadiums. Its so much more. it can be between animals and humans, friends, family, partners... its how I can say I love you Nina, and not have to worry about "Is it Really Love?" or any of that mumbo jumbo of naive youth. It was love the first time I put you before me. Now was it Romeo and Juliette... No. I think that kind of Love, where you throw caution to the wind and fly off on a whim after just meeting the person is extremely rare and usually unwise. At any rate... since your TV life is on hold. Read Plato's Symposium... its on gutenberg.org for free... or at most libraries... you may've read it before, but read it again. Oh... and Nina. I Love You.