You can pick your friends...
How many times have I thought this one in my head. I am very involved with my family, maybe too much would be the opinions of some. I know Andy thought so. But I had gotten used to being with someone for whom family was helad at quite an arms distance...like 2500 miles arms distance.
So now with all that John has gone through in the last year or so, I'm not really sure how to react to some of this or even what to say. I think that a lot of his family issues are pretty jacked up and I love him dearly for wanting to be the one to smooth everything over with everyone, but that being said, it's putting a huge stress on him and in turn on us.
He is so stressed all the time that we don't have much in the way of "couple time" anymore that doesn't involve him worrying about Nancy or work or something. And work is stressful enough for him. I know that I can be an overly compassionate person, but I'm getting really tired of the whole thing. Adults are just that, Adults. They need to deal with things in an adult manner and if they can't then they need to seek help to allow them to. Life is tough, it's tough and often times not fair. but you have to choose to either give up or keep trying. Lord knows in the past couple of years I have felt may times like giving up , like it wasn't worth all the trouble it was causing me. But I'm still here.
Ahhh, the things you wish you could say to people but know you never can. Cause you can't pick your family!
So now with all that John has gone through in the last year or so, I'm not really sure how to react to some of this or even what to say. I think that a lot of his family issues are pretty jacked up and I love him dearly for wanting to be the one to smooth everything over with everyone, but that being said, it's putting a huge stress on him and in turn on us.
He is so stressed all the time that we don't have much in the way of "couple time" anymore that doesn't involve him worrying about Nancy or work or something. And work is stressful enough for him. I know that I can be an overly compassionate person, but I'm getting really tired of the whole thing. Adults are just that, Adults. They need to deal with things in an adult manner and if they can't then they need to seek help to allow them to. Life is tough, it's tough and often times not fair. but you have to choose to either give up or keep trying. Lord knows in the past couple of years I have felt may times like giving up , like it wasn't worth all the trouble it was causing me. But I'm still here.
Ahhh, the things you wish you could say to people but know you never can. Cause you can't pick your family!