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Listen up.
If any of you have something to say that's bothering you, fucking say it. I'm so tired of being expected to know something and then having my head bitten off because I didn't know there was a problem, or that I should have known there was a problem.
Also, when there are group decisions to be made, don't fucking come to me, saying that it's all me, me, me trying to personally attack you. Contrary to what most people think, I am not like that at all. I try to make sure everything's happy for everyone, and I try to make sure that there are compromises reached so that everyone can find a happy medium and that no one fights. I don't like fights, and I don't like drama. But if you're not going to say anything until you decide to explode at me for doing absolutely nothing except going along with what it seemed everyone else wanted, then maybe you should look into growing up.
I may be confrontational on the VAA, and other places that I moderate, but I am not like that when you get to know me. I avoid confrontations. And if you have a problem with me, or someone else on a staff for the site that I'm working on - say something. Don't expect us to cater to your every thought, because we can't read your damn mind. If something is on it - SAY IT, like the mature adult I know that is inside each and every one of you, instead of keeping to yourself, wondering when people are going to take notice. If you haven't been able to tell - this is the internet. Emotions cannot be conveyed accurately through text, and we cannot see you pouting through the screen. So do not throw a hissy fit when people don't react to things the way you want. If you say "I'm okay," people are going to believe you. If you don't show that anything isn't on your mind, then people aren't going to think that things aren't on your mind.
This is not elementary school anymore. We should be able to talk it out, like adults, instead of whining to one person and getting mad when it's suggested that everyone talk. That's not the way life works, and I'm sorry to those who honestly believed that.
Do not attack me when I'm trying to be helpful, and do not make further attacks when I tell you the truth to the best of my knowledge. I can't speak on behalf of other people, but I can speak on behalf of myself and that's the best you can expect of me. I don't believe in dishonesty; what you hear from me is the truth to the best of my knowledge and if I'm incorrect, I may be stubborn, but I will admit to my mistakes.
If you have a problem with something I've said, or did, take it up with me. If you have a problem with something someone else said, or did, take it up with THEM.. if you have a problem with something that I was involved with, as a group, take it up with the goddamn group and try to talk it out like an adult. That's what grown up people do.
The shitty thing about all of this is that I'm probably going to lose someone I consider a friend in the process of this stupid dramafuck.
If any of you have something to say that's bothering you, fucking say it. I'm so tired of being expected to know something and then having my head bitten off because I didn't know there was a problem, or that I should have known there was a problem.
Also, when there are group decisions to be made, don't fucking come to me, saying that it's all me, me, me trying to personally attack you. Contrary to what most people think, I am not like that at all. I try to make sure everything's happy for everyone, and I try to make sure that there are compromises reached so that everyone can find a happy medium and that no one fights. I don't like fights, and I don't like drama. But if you're not going to say anything until you decide to explode at me for doing absolutely nothing except going along with what it seemed everyone else wanted, then maybe you should look into growing up.
I may be confrontational on the VAA, and other places that I moderate, but I am not like that when you get to know me. I avoid confrontations. And if you have a problem with me, or someone else on a staff for the site that I'm working on - say something. Don't expect us to cater to your every thought, because we can't read your damn mind. If something is on it - SAY IT, like the mature adult I know that is inside each and every one of you, instead of keeping to yourself, wondering when people are going to take notice. If you haven't been able to tell - this is the internet. Emotions cannot be conveyed accurately through text, and we cannot see you pouting through the screen. So do not throw a hissy fit when people don't react to things the way you want. If you say "I'm okay," people are going to believe you. If you don't show that anything isn't on your mind, then people aren't going to think that things aren't on your mind.
This is not elementary school anymore. We should be able to talk it out, like adults, instead of whining to one person and getting mad when it's suggested that everyone talk. That's not the way life works, and I'm sorry to those who honestly believed that.
Do not attack me when I'm trying to be helpful, and do not make further attacks when I tell you the truth to the best of my knowledge. I can't speak on behalf of other people, but I can speak on behalf of myself and that's the best you can expect of me. I don't believe in dishonesty; what you hear from me is the truth to the best of my knowledge and if I'm incorrect, I may be stubborn, but I will admit to my mistakes.
If you have a problem with something I've said, or did, take it up with me. If you have a problem with something someone else said, or did, take it up with THEM.. if you have a problem with something that I was involved with, as a group, take it up with the goddamn group and try to talk it out like an adult. That's what grown up people do.
The shitty thing about all of this is that I'm probably going to lose someone I consider a friend in the process of this stupid dramafuck.