The best relationship conversation ever, from on the tippest top of a mountain

[nichtsbesonders]

"So PiC, where are you and Friend going next weekend?" "We were thinking of just going east on that trail we passed and exploring, it's supposed to come out eventually at a highway, but we might go to Black Tusk instead." "I think... you should start at 1:00 on Saturday instead of early morning." "We can't, baby, I'm sleeping at the Drive on Friday just so we can get an even earlier start, it's too long of a hike." Me, melodramatically, slightly joking: "I am so so jealous and bitter. I tell you this morning that I can't go next weekend and in two hours you're already talking to Friend about next weekend. No 'oh please' or anything!" Him, helpless: "I'm sorry..." Me, deep breath. "I. Feel. (giggle) frustrated. (both giggle) I. Feel. that there is some imbalance in compromise... I didn't go to Portland this weekend so we could go hiking on Friday, and then you couldn't go anyway, and I skipped practice and the fundraising car wash to go hiking today... couldn't you just delay the trip six hours, or start on Sunday and skip school with me Monday?" Him: "You know I can't skip school, school has always come first." Me, realization: "Yes. Yes, for me too." "That's how you are with band too, and I just want to support you, and that's why I try so hard to never make you late or cut into your practice time." Me, realization. Him, continuing: "I understand your frustration, I feel it all the time. I. Feel. (giggle) that don't you think you're being a little unreasonable?" Me: "Of course! yes." Thinks to self, unreasonable has always been my middle name. Him: "And I. Feel. that isn't it a little unfair to project the frustration you feel onto me?" "Yes, yes, you're right." "And do you understand that I have as little time with the mountains and with Friend as I have with you, so I have to maximize my time? I haven't had time to go into the mountains alone, and I would love to do that, but I won't be able to." "Yes, I understand. But do you understand how I could be frustrated?" "Yes! Yes! I feel that way all the time when I'm in the library wanting to hang out with you or wanting to be outside or anything else. Even though I'm frustrated I know I have to dedicate the time for the bigger picture. And that's what you have to do for your band - even though you don't need the practice you need to support them for the worlds." Both: kiss and makeup. Me, last completely unsuccessful and harmless jab: "But, but... there's a big honkin surfboard in my room with your name on it!"

I'm learning slowly, meine Freunden.