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I've been reading some social science books lately and the
dynamics of how each individual person works is very intriguing and
hilarious to me at the same time. I think alot of people will never
truly understand how they really are. I think people view us
differently then how we view ourselves so we'll never have a total
grasp on how we really are anyway, in a sense.
Since thinking about human behavior I've come across a circumstance that I find amusing. I know a person who technically has a problem with everyone. This person may or may not have an actual issue with you regarding some circumstance where they feel that you wronged them or society, but since you have differences that they can't explain or relate to then they will always have this problem with you because it bothers them and makes them feel uncomfortable.
Is the real problem "our" idiosyncrasies or is it theirs? Does this person not realize that everyone is different and that different is good? I've dealt with some of these issues in my own life and I probably still do. At the same time as I recognize that I do this I try to learn from this thought process.
The first month that I lived in England was a glorious time. I loved everything about it. It was so fresh, new and different from anything that I had ever seen. I was in love. I was having my honeymoon. Then once it kicked in that I was going to be living there a while and home wasn't so close, I realized that England wasn't as glorious as I had once thought. The vacation was over. This was reality for me.
There were people there that didn't see eye to eye with me. No one understood me. Everyone hated Americans and they were all socialist bastards that wanted to give the world away. They called soccer football and they didn't give a shit about Michael Jordan.
Then one day it clicked. Not only did it click with me, but with everyone else there. I wasn't into English football, but I could learn to like it and talk about it. I love soccer now and I can't wait for the World Cup. They didn't care about basketball, but they wanted to learn about it. They thought they hated Americans, but then realized that Beverly Hills 90210 and Baywatch didn't define real Americans. This was such a glorious breakthrough for all of us. It changed the way I view people and myself.
Case and point: People are so crazy these days about equal rights and non-judgement for any race/gender/sexual orientation/religion. I hope that we can apply these attitudes towards personalities in our everyday lives and be alright with the fact that someone might tie their shoe in a different way than you.
Since thinking about human behavior I've come across a circumstance that I find amusing. I know a person who technically has a problem with everyone. This person may or may not have an actual issue with you regarding some circumstance where they feel that you wronged them or society, but since you have differences that they can't explain or relate to then they will always have this problem with you because it bothers them and makes them feel uncomfortable.
Is the real problem "our" idiosyncrasies or is it theirs? Does this person not realize that everyone is different and that different is good? I've dealt with some of these issues in my own life and I probably still do. At the same time as I recognize that I do this I try to learn from this thought process.
The first month that I lived in England was a glorious time. I loved everything about it. It was so fresh, new and different from anything that I had ever seen. I was in love. I was having my honeymoon. Then once it kicked in that I was going to be living there a while and home wasn't so close, I realized that England wasn't as glorious as I had once thought. The vacation was over. This was reality for me.
There were people there that didn't see eye to eye with me. No one understood me. Everyone hated Americans and they were all socialist bastards that wanted to give the world away. They called soccer football and they didn't give a shit about Michael Jordan.
Then one day it clicked. Not only did it click with me, but with everyone else there. I wasn't into English football, but I could learn to like it and talk about it. I love soccer now and I can't wait for the World Cup. They didn't care about basketball, but they wanted to learn about it. They thought they hated Americans, but then realized that Beverly Hills 90210 and Baywatch didn't define real Americans. This was such a glorious breakthrough for all of us. It changed the way I view people and myself.
Case and point: People are so crazy these days about equal rights and non-judgement for any race/gender/sexual orientation/religion. I hope that we can apply these attitudes towards personalities in our everyday lives and be alright with the fact that someone might tie their shoe in a different way than you.