Just a few questions about SEX...
Just a few questions about SEX…ya, I know I’m 22… ya, and have done it before…ya, I worked at an adult store…ya, I’ve talked in sex workshops…but I’ve still got some questions…bare with me… I explain why…
1) What exactly is it supposed to mean emotionally? It seems to mean so many different things to people…I’m confused… I used to think I knew what it meant and constantly stuck to my ideas as a type of law for myself…recently I have been tempted to take a second look at what I believe and why I believe it…
Sex has was cheapened for me due to my sexual assaults and then by my period after in which I self-medicated with drugs and alcohol to escape, and by lovers that were horrible to me but strong and “protective”.
I always thought sex should mean something and for me it did. I’ve been a moron for years and whole heartedly believed that I was in love. I mistook possessive obsession for love being returned and grasped a hold of that as tight as I could, with the pathetic yet understandable severe need to feel loved and safe.
Now I still feel the need for love and safety but I have grown up a lot and have realized that no matter if I’m single or not.. I’m not alone in this world. I have a lot of people out there that love me and I don’t have to settle for someone attractive with confidence and prestige shown on the outside while they are rotting on the inside. Maybe this is one of the reasons for my nearly two years of celibacy…
2) What is a respectable number of sexual partners for someone around my age to have? I have friends who are virgins and friends who have had over a hundred different partners. It seems to be in the pattern of…5% virgins, 60% with 4,5,6,7 partners, 20% with 20-30 partners, and 15% with over a hundred partners… Does anyone else see this trend?
I have no hard feelings for those who are at a different number level than me…but I do what to know the thoughts others have about the numbers idea…BTW…I do have a “low” number…
Does anyone else worry about the numbers?
Get turned off by a partner with a “high” number? If so…what do you consider a high number?
3) What are your thoughts on friends having casual sex? This means no commitment.. it’s an understanding between two consenting adults…it is for pleasure only… Can this work? What are the pro’s and cons?
I think that the reasons behind this question should be pretty clear…it’s just a question…GET OVER YOURSELF...well...maybe not you...oh dear...
LMAO
1) What exactly is it supposed to mean emotionally? It seems to mean so many different things to people…I’m confused… I used to think I knew what it meant and constantly stuck to my ideas as a type of law for myself…recently I have been tempted to take a second look at what I believe and why I believe it…
Sex has was cheapened for me due to my sexual assaults and then by my period after in which I self-medicated with drugs and alcohol to escape, and by lovers that were horrible to me but strong and “protective”.
I always thought sex should mean something and for me it did. I’ve been a moron for years and whole heartedly believed that I was in love. I mistook possessive obsession for love being returned and grasped a hold of that as tight as I could, with the pathetic yet understandable severe need to feel loved and safe.
Now I still feel the need for love and safety but I have grown up a lot and have realized that no matter if I’m single or not.. I’m not alone in this world. I have a lot of people out there that love me and I don’t have to settle for someone attractive with confidence and prestige shown on the outside while they are rotting on the inside. Maybe this is one of the reasons for my nearly two years of celibacy…
2) What is a respectable number of sexual partners for someone around my age to have? I have friends who are virgins and friends who have had over a hundred different partners. It seems to be in the pattern of…5% virgins, 60% with 4,5,6,7 partners, 20% with 20-30 partners, and 15% with over a hundred partners… Does anyone else see this trend?
I have no hard feelings for those who are at a different number level than me…but I do what to know the thoughts others have about the numbers idea…BTW…I do have a “low” number…
Does anyone else worry about the numbers?
Get turned off by a partner with a “high” number? If so…what do you consider a high number?
3) What are your thoughts on friends having casual sex? This means no commitment.. it’s an understanding between two consenting adults…it is for pleasure only… Can this work? What are the pro’s and cons?
I think that the reasons behind this question should be pretty clear…it’s just a question…GET OVER YOURSELF...well...maybe not you...oh dear...
LMAO