Do I Live Too Deep In My Comfort Zone?
I attended a smash buddy's wedding a few days ago. He's 21 years old and he's been together with this girl since high school. He's the same age as me and ever since then I can't seem to quit questioning myself. I'm an extremely funny, passive, polite individual with many friends. Despite the large amount of friends I have, never have I ever been in a relationship with a girl before. I've been single since day one. It hasn't been bugging me much but it has somewhat lately.
For the past few days I have been trying to find the answer. One of my work colleagues suggest that I live too deep in my comfort zone. She also went to say "girls aren't into nice...sweet guys yet. They are interested in the tough boys at this point." I agreed with the first point about the comfort zone part, not so much about the "not into nice guy" line, but I digress. I do spend my weekends either smashing with friends, working, doing college work, or simply staying home. Doing these things make me really happy. But, at the end of the day...I'm not really putting myself out there.
I don't drink, smoke, go clubbing, or anything like that. Not that I have anything against those activities. I prefer going to the movies, beach parties, house parties, or even a restaurant. You know, stuff like that. But at the same time, I don't want to be single forever. I'm not insecure or anything like that. I find myself attractive, open, and I don't tend to let people's negative thoughts rain on my parade. But I must admit that it would feel good to experience a relationship. I guess you can say I'm old fashion, I don't believe in dating a woman just for her looks or for just the sexual pleasure. I believe in value and respect.
So I suppose my question is...if I step out of this comfort zone, will I find someone? The idea frightens me, I won't lie. I always felt a little uncomfortable going to places like clubs. I just don't know what to expect anymore. Its kind of frustrating. There are days were it feels like time is running out and I freak out cause I can't see what my future holds.
I just wish I knew...
For the past few days I have been trying to find the answer. One of my work colleagues suggest that I live too deep in my comfort zone. She also went to say "girls aren't into nice...sweet guys yet. They are interested in the tough boys at this point." I agreed with the first point about the comfort zone part, not so much about the "not into nice guy" line, but I digress. I do spend my weekends either smashing with friends, working, doing college work, or simply staying home. Doing these things make me really happy. But, at the end of the day...I'm not really putting myself out there.
I don't drink, smoke, go clubbing, or anything like that. Not that I have anything against those activities. I prefer going to the movies, beach parties, house parties, or even a restaurant. You know, stuff like that. But at the same time, I don't want to be single forever. I'm not insecure or anything like that. I find myself attractive, open, and I don't tend to let people's negative thoughts rain on my parade. But I must admit that it would feel good to experience a relationship. I guess you can say I'm old fashion, I don't believe in dating a woman just for her looks or for just the sexual pleasure. I believe in value and respect.
So I suppose my question is...if I step out of this comfort zone, will I find someone? The idea frightens me, I won't lie. I always felt a little uncomfortable going to places like clubs. I just don't know what to expect anymore. Its kind of frustrating. There are days were it feels like time is running out and I freak out cause I can't see what my future holds.
I just wish I knew...