Annoyed

[nekodakara]

that a certain someone didn't return the keys when she was supposed to. This meant that she had the keys to both Ben's apartment and mine (since Ben's roommate left her his spare since she wanted to borrow the microwave) while neither of us (or Ben's roomie) were there. Not comfortable with that. This also meant that Ben was unable to enter my

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[nekodakara]

Though I'm not annoyed anymore (especially since the problem's been resolved), I'd like to point out a few things about your excuse...
1) You didn't inform Ben, Dana, or I that you wouldn't be returning the keys on the specified date. You said that you have a phone and email. Well, so do we, and a little heads-up would've been nice, kiddo.
2) Although you say the amount of stuff was small, you were supposed to have moved out on the 23rd, or at least by the time everyone came back. Saying that you still wanted access to the room because you had stuff left there is not an excuse.
3) Saying that you were unaware of the reasons why we might have wanted the keys to be returned just means that you didn't think about it, or assumed that whatever reasons we may have had were less important than your own personal convenience. That you didn't consult or even bother notifying anyone that you were holding on to the keys stands testament to this.
4) While I'm sorry that you got sick (>_< especially during the holidays), I was taught long ago that illness and/or saying sorry (or that you feel bad after the fact) do not function as universal get out of jail free cards. They do elicit sympathy, but can tend to make their user feel more absolved and justified than their receiver feels satisfied.

[semer]

Right, and I wasn't upset that you were annoyed (I meant to email you and ben but never was able to so that is my bad) but upset at what I perceive as a really passive-aggressive way of showing your annoyance. :(

[nekodakara]

^_^ I enjoy being passive aggressive in certain situations. But if you would like me to be more direct, the heart of the issue is point three (of my previous post). Also, excuses (especially repeated excuses) make an apology less sincere. In this case, the apology is already insincere in that it is only for my reaction to your behavior, and not the behavior itself. Though I really don't know if I should assume that you are aware of this or not.