i think all of the reasons you've listed are completely valid & quite honestly i felt the exact same way about almost all of your points.
they were loud airhorn warning signals... but i didn't listen. when i found myself knocked up, i guess it was the hormones (or my mother worrying about me dying alone - sans cats - one day) that made me decide to keep my kid.
8 years later... i love my kid. i dealt with his shit & still deal with the occasional pukefest. i often feel sorry for him because i don't think i'm the mom he deserves, but i'm what he got. if i could go back in time, *** not knowing ANYTHING about the kid he'd be & the joy he'd bring ***, i just don't know that he'd be here.
sounds terrible, right? ah well. i had a hysterectomy about 1.5 years after he was born. then married a man i probably wouldn't mind splitting some DNA with... but... oh well. >shrug<
at least i won't have to deal with changing diapers again (at least until i have to change my mom's or my husband's). & i am okaaaaaaaaay with that.
long, long, long comment to say that there are probably more people out there that feel the same way but are pressured by society to exalt motherhood. make sense?
I just feel lucky in one aspect, my mom doesn't pressure me to give her grandkids like a lot of mothers do. In fact, she's quite happy that I havent had nor plan to have kids...
I think part of my thing with not having kids is.. I was a complete accident.. and I dont feel like MY mother ever really wanted me.. to this day she's nto really very motherly towards me.. so.. I dont wanna do the same to my kid, even if I wanted one
i think all of the reasons you've listed are completely valid & quite honestly i felt the exact same way about almost all of your points.
they were loud airhorn warning signals... but i didn't listen. when i found myself knocked up, i guess it was the hormones (or my mother worrying about me dying alone - sans cats - one day) that made me decide to keep my kid.
8 years later... i love my kid. i dealt with his shit & still deal with the occasional pukefest. i often feel sorry for him because i don't think i'm the mom he deserves, but i'm what he got. if i could go back in time, *** not knowing ANYTHING about the kid he'd be & the joy he'd bring ***, i just don't know that he'd be here.
sounds terrible, right? ah well. i had a hysterectomy about 1.5 years after he was born. then married a man i probably wouldn't mind splitting some DNA with... but... oh well. >shrug<
at least i won't have to deal with changing diapers again (at least until i have to change my mom's or my husband's). & i am okaaaaaaaaay with that.
long, long, long comment to say that there are probably more people out there that feel the same way but are pressured by society to exalt motherhood. make sense?
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I just feel lucky in one aspect, my mom doesn't pressure me to give her grandkids like a lot of mothers do. In fact, she's quite happy that I havent had nor plan to have kids...
I think part of my thing with not having kids is.. I was a complete accident.. and I dont feel like MY mother ever really wanted me.. to this day she's nto really very motherly towards me.. so.. I dont wanna do the same to my kid, even if I wanted one
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