A wedding story
Alright, so, you're probably saying something like "Married? WTF?" Heh. Join the club. =]
Constantin and I were married on May 30th 2009 in San Clemente , CA . My Aunt was kind enough to let us hold the ceremony at her beautiful home that overlooks the ocean. Why? Well, because we love each other and had to make a quick choice and we chose one another over our jaded views on marriage.
The next question is probably, “Well, why wasn’t I invited?” The answer is; I would have if I could have, at least the people on my friends list that I know pretty well. Unfortunately, we could only invite a small handful of people due to the amount of room and my aunt had concerns about the balcony holding up; a very valid concern considering she lost a nice chunk of her backyard in a mudslide a couple of years ago.
We didn’t have much time to plan (no, I am not preggers!); we only had 2 weeks, possibly less to prepare. I made the call to my wonderful Aunt and explained the situation. I told her that we were getting married, had thought about doing some cheesy-funny Vegas thing, but both hate Vegas. I asked her if we could hold the ceremony at her house so we could have some nice pictures for his Mom (and of course something nice for us). Well, it went from there. I called my Step-Mom and let her know and she was ecstatic even though she HADN’T MET HIM YET (Neither had my Dad!)!! Ha Ha! Aunt Sandy had and I’m sure she probably told my Mom how nice Constantin is. =]
My sister signed on as my Maid of Honor, and Oscar as Best Man. After working on some details over flowers and cake with my Mom, I realized I was quickly becoming overwhelmed. Working graveyard and planning wedding details was difficult. I decided to pass those duties along to my sister and she happily, okay, maybe not happily, accepted.
It was a very emotional time for me, I found myself in tears almost once or more per day for a number of reasons. I had to process a lot of residual emotional junk; I knew I had to or I wouldn’t be able to go through with it. I had made a promise to myself that if I were to marry again (my first marriage was just blah with me), that I would marry for the right reasons, whatever they were and that the person I married would do the same. I guess I still hadn’t quite concluded what the ‘right’ reasons were. I had to be decidedly decided that we were getting married for the ‘right’ reasons in a real quick hurry. Sure, it was quite obvious that we love each other, kind of a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised what demons will crop up when you’re contemplating tying the knot. Ultimately, I decided- we decided- that getting married because we want to stay together is a pretty darned good reason, heck, maybe even a little romantic… like Romeo and Juliet, without all the death and silly language. =-]
So we wrestled with time and guests and rings and food and drink and blah blah blah blah… And it turned out simply beautiful. I even got me a fancy dress. My Aunt, Dad, Sister, Joey, Violet, Oscar and our master of ceremonies, Elisa really had their game faces on! Thanks again guys should you read this. I’ve worked in a lot of situations that have required quick organization and let me say, you guys made the impossible, possible and we were awestruck. Thank you. :-)
Here was the jist of the day:
1.) Violet armed with her camera came down and saw me while I was sequestered. She took some very nice shots. My Dad met me down there as time drew nearer for the ceremony.
2.) We postponed for 30 minutes and waited for those who were running late.
3.) Joey plays his guitar and sings a song he wrote for us for the ceremony. Instead of the wedding march, I walked down the aisle to a song written by one of my best friends.
4.) My Dad gives me away to my soon to be husband.
5.) Elisa performs a beautiful and nearly flawless ceremony
6.) We kiss after we are announced =-]
7.) Oscar gives a great cute and funny toast speech
8.) My sister gives a wonderful speech and I’m so proud and happy!
9.) We toast
10.)We all drink champagne
11.)We sign formal stuff
12.)We eat the catered Boston Market that did an amazing job and the food was pretty good!
13.)We toss the garter and the bouquet.
14.)We dance our first dance as husband and wife to Billy Idol’s ‘White Wedding’ (thanks sis!)
Constantin’s Mom, Dad and a couple of his friends watched via Skype… God how I love technology!!!
Everything went off incredibly well for there being no rehearsal at all and there being many last minute changes. Thanks friends and family for your support on our fabulous day!
Constantin and I were married on May 30th 2009 in San Clemente , CA . My Aunt was kind enough to let us hold the ceremony at her beautiful home that overlooks the ocean. Why? Well, because we love each other and had to make a quick choice and we chose one another over our jaded views on marriage.
The next question is probably, “Well, why wasn’t I invited?” The answer is; I would have if I could have, at least the people on my friends list that I know pretty well. Unfortunately, we could only invite a small handful of people due to the amount of room and my aunt had concerns about the balcony holding up; a very valid concern considering she lost a nice chunk of her backyard in a mudslide a couple of years ago.
We didn’t have much time to plan (no, I am not preggers!); we only had 2 weeks, possibly less to prepare. I made the call to my wonderful Aunt and explained the situation. I told her that we were getting married, had thought about doing some cheesy-funny Vegas thing, but both hate Vegas. I asked her if we could hold the ceremony at her house so we could have some nice pictures for his Mom (and of course something nice for us). Well, it went from there. I called my Step-Mom and let her know and she was ecstatic even though she HADN’T MET HIM YET (Neither had my Dad!)!! Ha Ha! Aunt Sandy had and I’m sure she probably told my Mom how nice Constantin is. =]
My sister signed on as my Maid of Honor, and Oscar as Best Man. After working on some details over flowers and cake with my Mom, I realized I was quickly becoming overwhelmed. Working graveyard and planning wedding details was difficult. I decided to pass those duties along to my sister and she happily, okay, maybe not happily, accepted.
It was a very emotional time for me, I found myself in tears almost once or more per day for a number of reasons. I had to process a lot of residual emotional junk; I knew I had to or I wouldn’t be able to go through with it. I had made a promise to myself that if I were to marry again (my first marriage was just blah with me), that I would marry for the right reasons, whatever they were and that the person I married would do the same. I guess I still hadn’t quite concluded what the ‘right’ reasons were. I had to be decidedly decided that we were getting married for the ‘right’ reasons in a real quick hurry. Sure, it was quite obvious that we love each other, kind of a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised what demons will crop up when you’re contemplating tying the knot. Ultimately, I decided- we decided- that getting married because we want to stay together is a pretty darned good reason, heck, maybe even a little romantic… like Romeo and Juliet, without all the death and silly language. =-]
So we wrestled with time and guests and rings and food and drink and blah blah blah blah… And it turned out simply beautiful. I even got me a fancy dress. My Aunt, Dad, Sister, Joey, Violet, Oscar and our master of ceremonies, Elisa really had their game faces on! Thanks again guys should you read this. I’ve worked in a lot of situations that have required quick organization and let me say, you guys made the impossible, possible and we were awestruck. Thank you. :-)
Here was the jist of the day:
1.) Violet armed with her camera came down and saw me while I was sequestered. She took some very nice shots. My Dad met me down there as time drew nearer for the ceremony.
2.) We postponed for 30 minutes and waited for those who were running late.
3.) Joey plays his guitar and sings a song he wrote for us for the ceremony. Instead of the wedding march, I walked down the aisle to a song written by one of my best friends.
4.) My Dad gives me away to my soon to be husband.
5.) Elisa performs a beautiful and nearly flawless ceremony
6.) We kiss after we are announced =-]
7.) Oscar gives a great cute and funny toast speech
8.) My sister gives a wonderful speech and I’m so proud and happy!
9.) We toast
10.)We all drink champagne
11.)We sign formal stuff
12.)We eat the catered Boston Market that did an amazing job and the food was pretty good!
13.)We toss the garter and the bouquet.
14.)We dance our first dance as husband and wife to Billy Idol’s ‘White Wedding’ (thanks sis!)
Constantin’s Mom, Dad and a couple of his friends watched via Skype… God how I love technology!!!
Everything went off incredibly well for there being no rehearsal at all and there being many last minute changes. Thanks friends and family for your support on our fabulous day!