Creepy massage draft email
I finally got around to drafting an email to Kirsten at Ak'bol about the massage I got from her husband (full story here). Suggestions on revision are welcome.
Hi Kirsten,
I hope all is well with you and at Ak'bol! I had a great time swapping stories with Molly and David when they got back, and was very glad I had a quick recommendation available when their original plans were scuttled by ash. ;-)
This email has been a long time coming because it's a hard thing to write, and I wanted to wait until I'd had time to reflect and compose my thoughts, and until work calmed down a little. As you may remember, when I was there in February I had a massage with Miglio. There were several things I found troubling about how that massage went. I want to share them with you because, while I was only made somewhat uncomfortable, this kind of thing could have a much stronger effect on other people, particularly those with a history of sexual abuse, and I would hate for anything to disturb the amazing energy you've made at Ak'Bol.
Firstly, several times while massaging my buttocks, Miglio ran his hand under my underwear (a thong) and along my labia to my thigh. Secondly, after he was done massaging my chest, he ran his nails over my nipples, again several times. Lastly, when I sat up from the table, I realized that he'd been in his underwear the whole time. If he'd asked me about taking off his shorts, that might have been okay, but the surprise of it, coupled with the earlier incidents, was quite disturbing to me. Overall, the massage left me feeling tense, confused, and upset, rather than relaxed.
I'm not sure if Miglio is aware of how his current techniques might affect some people. I think it would be a good idea to bring it to his attention, because, as I said, this is something that could potentially have a very strong effect on someone, and I'd hate for that to happen at Ak'bol.
Thanks,
Rowan
Hi Kirsten,
I hope all is well with you and at Ak'bol! I had a great time swapping stories with Molly and David when they got back, and was very glad I had a quick recommendation available when their original plans were scuttled by ash. ;-)
This email has been a long time coming because it's a hard thing to write, and I wanted to wait until I'd had time to reflect and compose my thoughts, and until work calmed down a little. As you may remember, when I was there in February I had a massage with Miglio. There were several things I found troubling about how that massage went. I want to share them with you because, while I was only made somewhat uncomfortable, this kind of thing could have a much stronger effect on other people, particularly those with a history of sexual abuse, and I would hate for anything to disturb the amazing energy you've made at Ak'Bol.
Firstly, several times while massaging my buttocks, Miglio ran his hand under my underwear (a thong) and along my labia to my thigh. Secondly, after he was done massaging my chest, he ran his nails over my nipples, again several times. Lastly, when I sat up from the table, I realized that he'd been in his underwear the whole time. If he'd asked me about taking off his shorts, that might have been okay, but the surprise of it, coupled with the earlier incidents, was quite disturbing to me. Overall, the massage left me feeling tense, confused, and upset, rather than relaxed.
I'm not sure if Miglio is aware of how his current techniques might affect some people. I think it would be a good idea to bring it to his attention, because, as I said, this is something that could potentially have a very strong effect on someone, and I'd hate for that to happen at Ak'bol.
Thanks,
Rowan