i ain't no hero

[musesfool]

My niece and nephew came over and we had a nice family game of May I, which possibly was one of the most intense games I've played. We started out this time with four decks of cards instead of the usual two (we always have to add at least one more for the last hand anyway), so you'd think it would have been easier, but no. It's like, you KNOW there

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[deslea]

Well said.

I don't mind one-liners or people being a bit lazy with thank yous, because dude, we're all busy. (I also question how essential thank yous are - it's like thank you in reply to a thank you - but it's polite, and some kind of acknowledgement is called for IMO, and I try to do it). The only attitude to feedback that I hate is entitlement.

I loved Laura Shapiro's music videos. I stumbled across her on LJ one day and told her that I'd loved many of her vids over the years and was so glad to have a chance to tell her so.

She basically attacked me and said I mustn't have looked too hard, her address was on her website and so on and so on. And, you know, in one sense she was right - I hadn't tried too hard to find her, because videos took ages to download in those pre-ADSL2 days and you'd often closed the referring web pages before it saved to the drive, and no, I didn't go off and google her again to find her.

But it was such an entitled and arrogant thing to say. I felt totally crapped on and I have never watched one of her vids again. I don't think I've given much feedback since then either, actually.

[musesfool]

Yeah, I've known any number of people who've had bad experiences when they've left feedback, and it stops them from leaving more, which makes me sad. It's all just so weird from all sides of the equation, you know?