ATTENTION PLEASE
Hello every one. How are you all doing? I have come here today to try to let people know that I am alive and verbous on the topic of mine and Melinda's divorce.
First off thank you all for everything that you have contributed to our marriage. Our marriage would have been alot more boring without great people to have as friends. Friends are very important in anyone's life and this holds true for us now. We have come to the same decision that it is too dangerous to our love for each other and our care and sanity to try to push any further. While we are becoming a statistic that so many people argue about in this day and age, we are actually among the more modern version. We are stopping now because we still love each other very much and can not imagine causing each other any possible pain by trying to push harder to stay together. We don't want a bitter divorce; we don't want to hate each other; and we are doing this now to make sure none of the bad things of a divorce happen. We hated any idea of fighting while we were happily married. Why would want to tarnish such a meaningful part of our lives by starting to hate each other now? Hating each other for the divorce that we agreed on or the wonderful marriage that we had says that we were wrong in any and all of our decisions. We don't believe we are/were wrong.
Secondly our marriage was built on the idea of love and happiness, to see so much anger surronding our decision in life is painful. We understand that this can be a hard thing for some of our friends and family to swallow; believe me we still choke on it now and then as well. We never wanted our marriage; our lives; our decisions to cause problems for anyone, especially people we care about. This is why I am stating this next part. We understand that people are emotional. I am someone that would never expect someone to hide or deny their emotions, it is not a pleasent thing and can be very harmful in ways that you will never understand until it is too late. I thought I understood and controlled emotions better than anyone and I still got burned by them. However, I do ask one thing, do not act out in anger in our names. As I said before, we always wanted and still want love and happiness. I understand that people need to feel their emotions what ever they are or how ever they need to. I would be very up set and hurt, and I believe so would Melinda, for negitive or non-loving acts to be done in our names. It is not what we stand for and it is not what we want our marriage to stand for. I hope that makes sence and every one can understand that.
Finally, don't be affraid to talk to us about it or ask questions. I am constantly telling people that asking about it is a good thing, the more we talk about it the easier it gets. I will agree with Melinda that our heads are very much spinning from all of this, so please be patient with us if we ask you to wait on an answer, we will answer you as soon as we can handle it.
Thank you all for everything. Hope to see you soon.
First off thank you all for everything that you have contributed to our marriage. Our marriage would have been alot more boring without great people to have as friends. Friends are very important in anyone's life and this holds true for us now. We have come to the same decision that it is too dangerous to our love for each other and our care and sanity to try to push any further. While we are becoming a statistic that so many people argue about in this day and age, we are actually among the more modern version. We are stopping now because we still love each other very much and can not imagine causing each other any possible pain by trying to push harder to stay together. We don't want a bitter divorce; we don't want to hate each other; and we are doing this now to make sure none of the bad things of a divorce happen. We hated any idea of fighting while we were happily married. Why would want to tarnish such a meaningful part of our lives by starting to hate each other now? Hating each other for the divorce that we agreed on or the wonderful marriage that we had says that we were wrong in any and all of our decisions. We don't believe we are/were wrong.
Secondly our marriage was built on the idea of love and happiness, to see so much anger surronding our decision in life is painful. We understand that this can be a hard thing for some of our friends and family to swallow; believe me we still choke on it now and then as well. We never wanted our marriage; our lives; our decisions to cause problems for anyone, especially people we care about. This is why I am stating this next part. We understand that people are emotional. I am someone that would never expect someone to hide or deny their emotions, it is not a pleasent thing and can be very harmful in ways that you will never understand until it is too late. I thought I understood and controlled emotions better than anyone and I still got burned by them. However, I do ask one thing, do not act out in anger in our names. As I said before, we always wanted and still want love and happiness. I understand that people need to feel their emotions what ever they are or how ever they need to. I would be very up set and hurt, and I believe so would Melinda, for negitive or non-loving acts to be done in our names. It is not what we stand for and it is not what we want our marriage to stand for. I hope that makes sence and every one can understand that.
Finally, don't be affraid to talk to us about it or ask questions. I am constantly telling people that asking about it is a good thing, the more we talk about it the easier it gets. I will agree with Melinda that our heads are very much spinning from all of this, so please be patient with us if we ask you to wait on an answer, we will answer you as soon as we can handle it.
Thank you all for everything. Hope to see you soon.