[poly] discussion outcomes and inevitable evolutions
after this afternoon's post, matthew and i continued the discussion from last night about perceived relational shifts versus misidentified bucket errors. the end result is the understanding that things *will* change, short of the two of us dropping all our current relationships and never developing others ever again. we're going to meet new people
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"if we knew what bucket the new relationship went into, we felt we knew what to expect, and could therefore use the bucket classifications as a means of measuring "
We've acknowledged that this is what we are doing with out buckets right now (in addition to giving us a common language, a beginning point, and a foundation) and I can certainly forsee this potential trouble, as we add more buckets to the shed. For now, with only two buckets being possible options, I think we'll be ok. Add more buckets, and it's too messy, but have found no way to start off out of the starting block without some kind of buckets, as a means of valuation, comparison and lexicon, and a streamlined way to communicate across the distance that seperates us. I can see how, when we live together, it will be important to seek to ditch the buckets and move to something simple like this, and I can also see how the buckets serve a purpose for a specific point in time/ development/ evolution.
"Right thought equals right speech equals right action"
This what the very first piece of communication related advice I received, interestingly enough, from a nun.
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