Me and Felicia are getting very close to setting a wedding date. We got the year and the month. We're having problems figuring out the day
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To each their own - I won't judge anyone for it, but big weddings are not for me.
We got married because we wanted to. Not to show off, entertain people, spend a fortune on one freaking day, or create stress.
We threw my dress (off the rack - summer dress from a department store) and his good pants/shirt in the back of our truck and drove to a neighboring town. A Justice of the Peace performed a simple, non-religious, very positive ceremony. My parents and my brother and my brother's girlfriend were there. Then we all had dinner and that was it.
The services of the Justice of the Peace cost us 75 bucks.
Just my opinion, but when you're starting a new life together, why start in debt? What matters is the life you enjoy together. Not the foo-foo crap that really doesn't have any impact on anything.
We were married in March and decided to have a house party in May. Our yard was in bloom and very nice. Got all of our friends and family together for cake and snacks and stuff. About 3 hours in the late afternoon. And that was it.
When we got married, we already had a house and we had pretty much all the "stuff" we needed. So we specified no gifts. And listed a couple charities that people could donate to if they felt like it.
My dress, some flowers, the service, the hotel for the wedding night, and the house party all together cost us about $600.
Regrets? NONE. I didn't want the stress or the bills. I just wanted my husband. And I still have him. So, it all worked out very well for us.
Many people say they have dreamed of having big fancy weddings. But who is it really for? You can say "I do" on a small budget and what matters is that you mean those words. I have friends on LJ who are stressing because "Aunt Fartie wants this" and "Grandma Barfsmore says we should do that." It's your wedding. Your life. Make it whatever you want.
The only rule is that you and your beloved are truly happy with your plans. Because it is all about you.
From personal experience, it seems like anytime a couple has a big extravagant wedding, they end up divorced, but people who simply got married with no big show are still together, like you and your husband. I dunno, something I noticed.
We got married because we wanted to. Not to show off, entertain people, spend a fortune on one freaking day, or create stress.
We threw my dress (off the rack - summer dress from a department store) and his good pants/shirt in the back of our truck and drove to a neighboring town. A Justice of the Peace performed a simple, non-religious, very positive ceremony. My parents and my brother and my brother's girlfriend were there. Then we all had dinner and that was it.
The services of the Justice of the Peace cost us 75 bucks.
Just my opinion, but when you're starting a new life together, why start in debt? What matters is the life you enjoy together. Not the foo-foo crap that really doesn't have any impact on anything.
We were married in March and decided to have a house party in May. Our yard was in bloom and very nice. Got all of our friends and family together for cake and snacks and stuff. About 3 hours in the late afternoon. And that was it.
When we got married, we already had a house and we had pretty much all the "stuff" we needed. So we specified no gifts. And listed a couple charities that people could donate to if they felt like it.
My dress, some flowers, the service, the hotel for the wedding night, and the house party all together cost us about $600.
Regrets? NONE. I didn't want the stress or the bills. I just wanted my husband. And I still have him. So, it all worked out very well for us.
Many people say they have dreamed of having big fancy weddings. But who is it really for? You can say "I do" on a small budget and what matters is that you mean those words. I have friends on LJ who are stressing because "Aunt Fartie wants this" and "Grandma Barfsmore says we should do that." It's your wedding. Your life. Make it whatever you want.
The only rule is that you and your beloved are truly happy with your plans. Because it is all about you.
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