I don't know what I hate worse, Tumblr special snowflakes
or douchebats like this one who think they get to dictate other people's identities.
I’m going to copy and paste (with any identifying information deleted, and with permission) the reply of a genderqueer person who was infuriated by that post. The OP’s words are in italic, the criticism in bold.
Because they hurt actually transgender people. They don’t feel the same pain of dysphoria they do, but pretend they’re all in the same boat. They have completely misinterpreted the concept of “gender identity” and are ripping it apart.
Uh...no. I do experience dysphoria. Granted, it may not be raging and constant but sometimes I do wish I had male parts. The fact that this feeling isn't constant is what leads me to call myself genderqueer and not trans. Also, way to assume that all trans people seek surgery. I know a few who are quite happy not altering their bodies yet still identify as trans. In addition, I've felt like a happier person since admitting to myself that I'm not simply "female." Should I go back to just calling myself a “girl”? Because it feels wrong somehow.
“Genderqueer” people think that gender is linked to what you like, how you act, what you look like. To them, these things define your “gender”. They don’t.
Society has taught us that playing with cars is for boys, playing with dolls is for girls. Pink, make-up, being emotional are female; being into sports, drinking beer, acting dominant are male. This is WRONG. Interests cannot have a gender in itself, and being a car maniac doesn’t make a female less female, and being into sewing doesn’t make a male less male.
Genderqueer people think they are fighting society’s ideas on gender, but what they are actually doing is reinforcing it. They agree with “blue makes you a boy, pink makes you a girl”.
Where do you get this shit? I don't think any of this tripe. I don't think liking pink and blue makes me male or female. My sense of male and female is internal, it's what *I* experience. I don't tell anyone else that they are genderqueer. You just said it yourself: "being a car maniac doesn't make a female any less female, and being into sewing doesn't make a male less male." Gee, thanks. I didn't realize my entire identity was based on whether I cooked or played football. But then, you're the one who seems to think that, not me.
This is actually a large part of why I was reluctant to talk about this for a while- I believed what I was feeling was internalized sexism. That maybe I wanted to be a guy out of pure jealousy for how easy males have it. And people like this didn't help with that feeling. But no, I know that isn't true because for one thing, I still look like a girl and am going to be perceived as one by those who don't know me. I'm still going to experience sexism, and depending on who I tell I will probably experience additional shit for not being binary when it comes to gender, and I certainly was looked at funny by most of my partners for asking them if they would love me as a male.
But by doing this, they are saying that females/males are supposed to be the stereotypical female/male, and if they don’t act like the stereotype, they can’t be female/male- saying that females actually can’t like “male” things, and males can’t actually like “female” things, because it makes them less female/male.
What they should be doing, if they want to fight society’s standards, is say “fuck you, I’m female and I like football, it doesn’t make me any less female” instead of “I like football, so I can’t be female! I’m bigender because sometimes I like football, and sometimes I like having tea parties”.
I have never heard anyone say this. Never. You are a fucking moron.
When the brain develops, one of many things happening is the sexual differentiation of the brain, the result of which is your gender identity, the feeling of being male or female. This primarily happens because of sex hormones. The brain either stays female (more or less the “default”), or develops in a masculine direction. It cannot BOTH stay female AND develop into a male brain. Testosteron will masculinize it, it will not develop two separate “feelings of gender”, this is impossible. You have one brain, one thing will happen to it (feminization or masculinization), and it gives you one feeling.
You have one brain! One thing will happen to it! How fucking scientific. I wasn't aware that the brain was an organ that couldn't handle multiple processes/have multiple things happen to it at once! I guess bisexuality is a bunch of bullshit too. You can only be attracted to one sex at a time, of course. Also, women have testosterone too, idiot. It doesn't automatically make them men.
I looked through comments and reblogs and came across this little gem about the OP:Remember when he and his girlfriend, who run a rather large Homestuck porn blog, freaked out last summer because someone posted a picture of John going down on ftm!Karkat, and they made a rant about how that was fetishizing being trans* and how “trans* people would never let anyone near their genitals, and if they do then they aren’t trans*?”
Good times.
Yeah, this person needs to set fire to themselves.
Unlocked.
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I’m going to copy and paste (with any identifying information deleted, and with permission) the reply of a genderqueer person who was infuriated by that post. The OP’s words are in italic, the criticism in bold.
Because they hurt actually transgender people. They don’t feel the same pain of dysphoria they do, but pretend they’re all in the same boat. They have completely misinterpreted the concept of “gender identity” and are ripping it apart.
Uh...no. I do experience dysphoria. Granted, it may not be raging and constant but sometimes I do wish I had male parts. The fact that this feeling isn't constant is what leads me to call myself genderqueer and not trans. Also, way to assume that all trans people seek surgery. I know a few who are quite happy not altering their bodies yet still identify as trans. In addition, I've felt like a happier person since admitting to myself that I'm not simply "female." Should I go back to just calling myself a “girl”? Because it feels wrong somehow.
“Genderqueer” people think that gender is linked to what you like, how you act, what you look like. To them, these things define your “gender”. They don’t.
Society has taught us that playing with cars is for boys, playing with dolls is for girls. Pink, make-up, being emotional are female; being into sports, drinking beer, acting dominant are male. This is WRONG. Interests cannot have a gender in itself, and being a car maniac doesn’t make a female less female, and being into sewing doesn’t make a male less male.
Genderqueer people think they are fighting society’s ideas on gender, but what they are actually doing is reinforcing it. They agree with “blue makes you a boy, pink makes you a girl”.
Where do you get this shit? I don't think any of this tripe. I don't think liking pink and blue makes me male or female. My sense of male and female is internal, it's what *I* experience. I don't tell anyone else that they are genderqueer. You just said it yourself: "being a car maniac doesn't make a female any less female, and being into sewing doesn't make a male less male." Gee, thanks. I didn't realize my entire identity was based on whether I cooked or played football. But then, you're the one who seems to think that, not me.
This is actually a large part of why I was reluctant to talk about this for a while- I believed what I was feeling was internalized sexism. That maybe I wanted to be a guy out of pure jealousy for how easy males have it. And people like this didn't help with that feeling. But no, I know that isn't true because for one thing, I still look like a girl and am going to be perceived as one by those who don't know me. I'm still going to experience sexism, and depending on who I tell I will probably experience additional shit for not being binary when it comes to gender, and I certainly was looked at funny by most of my partners for asking them if they would love me as a male.
But by doing this, they are saying that females/males are supposed to be the stereotypical female/male, and if they don’t act like the stereotype, they can’t be female/male- saying that females actually can’t like “male” things, and males can’t actually like “female” things, because it makes them less female/male.
What they should be doing, if they want to fight society’s standards, is say “fuck you, I’m female and I like football, it doesn’t make me any less female” instead of “I like football, so I can’t be female! I’m bigender because sometimes I like football, and sometimes I like having tea parties”.
I have never heard anyone say this. Never. You are a fucking moron.
When the brain develops, one of many things happening is the sexual differentiation of the brain, the result of which is your gender identity, the feeling of being male or female. This primarily happens because of sex hormones. The brain either stays female (more or less the “default”), or develops in a masculine direction. It cannot BOTH stay female AND develop into a male brain. Testosteron will masculinize it, it will not develop two separate “feelings of gender”, this is impossible. You have one brain, one thing will happen to it (feminization or masculinization), and it gives you one feeling.
You have one brain! One thing will happen to it! How fucking scientific. I wasn't aware that the brain was an organ that couldn't handle multiple processes/have multiple things happen to it at once! I guess bisexuality is a bunch of bullshit too. You can only be attracted to one sex at a time, of course. Also, women have testosterone too, idiot. It doesn't automatically make them men.
I looked through comments and reblogs and came across this little gem about the OP:Remember when he and his girlfriend, who run a rather large Homestuck porn blog, freaked out last summer because someone posted a picture of John going down on ftm!Karkat, and they made a rant about how that was fetishizing being trans* and how “trans* people would never let anyone near their genitals, and if they do then they aren’t trans*?”
Good times.
Yeah, this person needs to set fire to themselves.
Unlocked.
This entry was originally posted at http://ms-daisy-cutter.dreamwidth.org/1874850.html. Please comment there using either your DW account or OpenID.