frank vs cool
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shadusfix pointed out today, " I share what I'm going through, but not what I'm feeling. She couldn't understand that because her idea of a journal was the recording of innermost thoughts and secrets.
I guess some people can do that, but most that I've seen... don't. "
Well, I don't know about innermost thoughts - I am afraid it is rather difficult to say something innermost, because innermost thoughts are normally somehow vague and uncertain and once you put them into words they are not innermost after all - but my idea of a journal is definitly to write something that is interesting to me. And peoples feeling and thoughts are definitely interesting to them. Why people don't write more personal stuff then?
One obvious answer is that they are hiding it from there real-life friends or relatives.
But I don't think it is the main reason. Me, for example. Nobody (almost :-) knows me in this journal. Why don't I write here something more personal?
OK, I am extraverted thinker and I don't like to write about myself too much, but still.
I think, mostly because of the inner censor. The writing is a compromise between two desires: to be frank and to be cool.
" Be attractive, don't be unattractive", remember?
And like the poet said,
"But my own unwillingness is grinding and grounding me
and I’m standing on guard, in my own octagonal garden."
And what do you think? Or as readers, do you enjoy reading something inner or maybe you feel uncomfortable to read somebody's private records?
shadusfix pointed out today, " I share what I'm going through, but not what I'm feeling. She couldn't understand that because her idea of a journal was the recording of innermost thoughts and secrets.
I guess some people can do that, but most that I've seen... don't. "
Well, I don't know about innermost thoughts - I am afraid it is rather difficult to say something innermost, because innermost thoughts are normally somehow vague and uncertain and once you put them into words they are not innermost after all - but my idea of a journal is definitly to write something that is interesting to me. And peoples feeling and thoughts are definitely interesting to them. Why people don't write more personal stuff then?
One obvious answer is that they are hiding it from there real-life friends or relatives.
But I don't think it is the main reason. Me, for example. Nobody (almost :-) knows me in this journal. Why don't I write here something more personal?
OK, I am extraverted thinker and I don't like to write about myself too much, but still.
I think, mostly because of the inner censor. The writing is a compromise between two desires: to be frank and to be cool.
" Be attractive, don't be unattractive", remember?
And like the poet said,
"But my own unwillingness is grinding and grounding me
and I’m standing on guard, in my own octagonal garden."
And what do you think? Or as readers, do you enjoy reading something inner or maybe you feel uncomfortable to read somebody's private records?