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[mrmaxpowers]

slipping away to Goleta for the day friday and saturday was a blessing. after making a morning decision to play hooky so we can get to Goleta sooner and get an hour or two beach time was a good idea, though the tide had removed most of the beach

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[trixiefirecat]

just keep telling yourself she doesn't create your reality. that, and the person who initiates the change in plans is dictating the schedule, not the person who sticks to the rules. if she says okay without asking for something in return, the case is closed. and i would come up with an exact amount of days you expect to be asked about schedule changes before they can be considered [i know you've given her one in the past, but she's never respected it, so might as well get it done in mediation], and preclude that it is still up to both of you agreeing before schedules get changed. not one person already having plans and the other yelling & calling to leave messages about co-parenting.

you kept very level-headed about her trying to change plans on you, that's exactly how you should do it. let her throw tantrums. save her messages [i know you want to delete them, but save them for evidence]. keep logs of this stuff now and have any witnesses sign it. you're right, she is being utterly harassing, but no amount of her insisting on her reality makes it real.