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slipping away to Goleta for the day friday and saturday was a blessing. after making a morning decision to play hooky so we can get to Goleta sooner and get an hour or two beach time was a good idea, though the tide had removed most of the beach.
Saturday was nice, but plagued by the name of the woman we dont mention by name any more. Because she used to have a direct and close relationship with these people in Goleta, you know she was a bit bothered by my still maintaining that relationship. the two day dialog went something like this:
Thur morning-fulfilling my 24 hour notice requirment
Me- Were going to Goleta. be back at Saturday and I'll drop her off at her normal (legally specified) time)
Her- Oh, well since you were an hour and a half last weekend, I wanted to get 2 hours in this weekend. We have plans. So be back at 2pm, rather than 4pm
*she knows this will make it impossible for us to go the beach saturday. shes deliberately sabatoging*
Me-Im sorry. I need more notice. I wont be able to accommodate you this weekend. We were late last weekend because Eva's playdate/pool party ran late, not for any selfish reason on my part of course. When I called, you were out with clients and to avoid a parking lot swap off, you said it was "totally fine" and I was kind enough to bring her to you. That aside, next weekend if you want her a few hours early, tell me now please.
She- But we have plans, and you are ruining them again. this is NOT co-parenting, you are dictating Eva's schedule
Me- How is advising you will be back at our normal time "dictating" ?
She- You kept her two hours late last weekend.
Me- With your agreement, and understanding that it was because we were running late. It was a circumstance. Surely you understand the difference.
She- (a message sent when she knew we were at the beach on Saturday afternoon right before we had to leave to be back in LA by 4pm) Great. I've had to cancel yet another planned event because you are dictating our schedule. This is not co-parenting
Shes gone from insane to fucking harrassing me. When I got this sitting on the beach, my stress, tension and mood were visible. Eva turned fussy, and my friends and Nigel we're all supportive. But this shit has to stop.
I started therapy today to help me cope with this current situation. I want the tools to completely whip her ass in mediation, before we go to court, to put a stop with this. I'm not going to be able to hire the legal guns I want, so I have to go with a lesser expensive one. Offering co-parenting counseling right away in our mediation meeting, hopefully will take some wind out of her sails and
help us towards a mediated solution. Can I tell you how excited I'd be to go to any form of counseling with this fucking delusional woman and watch her created realities get shattered one by one? I'm aware my culpability, but I cant imagine any co-parenting counseling, muchless a legal mediator would support her shit this past week...as an example.
Also, she doesnt realize she just laid a great opportunity to co-parent before me. She asked to take Eva to Hawaii for 1 week, the week her school is closed. All i asked is that I get 7 days in return. No problem.
Does she realize she has no case? No reason for this?
Im in a decent mood all things considered.
Saturday was nice, but plagued by the name of the woman we dont mention by name any more. Because she used to have a direct and close relationship with these people in Goleta, you know she was a bit bothered by my still maintaining that relationship. the two day dialog went something like this:
Thur morning-fulfilling my 24 hour notice requirment
Me- Were going to Goleta. be back at Saturday and I'll drop her off at her normal (legally specified) time)
Her- Oh, well since you were an hour and a half last weekend, I wanted to get 2 hours in this weekend. We have plans. So be back at 2pm, rather than 4pm
*she knows this will make it impossible for us to go the beach saturday. shes deliberately sabatoging*
Me-Im sorry. I need more notice. I wont be able to accommodate you this weekend. We were late last weekend because Eva's playdate/pool party ran late, not for any selfish reason on my part of course. When I called, you were out with clients and to avoid a parking lot swap off, you said it was "totally fine" and I was kind enough to bring her to you. That aside, next weekend if you want her a few hours early, tell me now please.
She- But we have plans, and you are ruining them again. this is NOT co-parenting, you are dictating Eva's schedule
Me- How is advising you will be back at our normal time "dictating" ?
She- You kept her two hours late last weekend.
Me- With your agreement, and understanding that it was because we were running late. It was a circumstance. Surely you understand the difference.
She- (a message sent when she knew we were at the beach on Saturday afternoon right before we had to leave to be back in LA by 4pm) Great. I've had to cancel yet another planned event because you are dictating our schedule. This is not co-parenting
Shes gone from insane to fucking harrassing me. When I got this sitting on the beach, my stress, tension and mood were visible. Eva turned fussy, and my friends and Nigel we're all supportive. But this shit has to stop.
I started therapy today to help me cope with this current situation. I want the tools to completely whip her ass in mediation, before we go to court, to put a stop with this. I'm not going to be able to hire the legal guns I want, so I have to go with a lesser expensive one. Offering co-parenting counseling right away in our mediation meeting, hopefully will take some wind out of her sails and
help us towards a mediated solution. Can I tell you how excited I'd be to go to any form of counseling with this fucking delusional woman and watch her created realities get shattered one by one? I'm aware my culpability, but I cant imagine any co-parenting counseling, muchless a legal mediator would support her shit this past week...as an example.
Also, she doesnt realize she just laid a great opportunity to co-parent before me. She asked to take Eva to Hawaii for 1 week, the week her school is closed. All i asked is that I get 7 days in return. No problem.
Does she realize she has no case? No reason for this?
Im in a decent mood all things considered.