Elena gilbert
After re-watching and purging and discussing with my friends, and also after some re-thinking, I realized that the anger I felt towards Elena Gilbert after 3x14 "Dangerous Liaisons", was legitimate in a sense. But if looked at the matter honestly, she had her reasons, and if I consider those then she can't really be HATED for what she did... not that I did hate her in the first place. But in a sense, HATE is also an emotion.. a strong negative ones at times which makes us do the wrong things, but it is an emotion indeed.
The opposite of Love isn't really Hate. It's indifference. When you truly are apathetic about a person, that's when it means that the person is out of your life and thoughts and s/he doesn't exist. To hate at times means that you are hurt by said person and is addressing the pain felt in a rash or harsh tone, but underneath it all there is still love, affection, care (Exhibit A: The countless times Damon and Stefan has swore to have hated each other) .. in other cases HATE is a very strong negative feeling which drives us to do deeds that we might be shameful or regretful at any point in our lives.
So I didn't really HATE Elena.
Angry at her, miffed at her choices and hurt by her actions.. YES
HATED her and wished her bad things... NO, NEVER!
So while discussing stuffs with Jenn, a friend of mine (Jennifer Conner)... I realized there are reason's that I can think of, why Elena did...whatever that she did.. Here goes:
Truth be told, her only fault here is that she's a huge denial girl and that she's constantly trying to sweep her conflicting feelings regarding Damon under the rug, coz facing them is difficult. Much like facing the fact that Stefan was a merciless Ripper was difficult for her so she conjured up the image of him troubled and in need of her assistance. And moreover she's not exactly IN LOVE with Damon. So she doesn't really owe him anything.
The sudden confession after a heated moment of fight overwhelmed her. Plus everyone and their dog knows about Damon loving Elena but honestly, Elena has heard it only couple of times, not 1 of which was a good moment. One was said and compelled to forget, the other while he was in deathbed, so it was already a painful memory and now in a moment of utter fight and disapproval he spurted out the words.... so she acted out of wits and later tried to mask it with indifference and action mode. Again DENIAL... I know it is a total crappy thing for her... but can't really blame her. She's 18 and for that age she's doing a much better job than anyone normal.
And about Damon acting as if he was her boyfriend. I mean, he's gonna act that way. It's sort of a given. It's Damon. Plus all those months of trying to save Stefan and being alone with Elena (minus Stefan that is) has gotten them closer than usual so now the gelling between them is different. He thinks it's normal for him to act all "I am your sole guardian angel" on her, since he's been sorta like that for all those months.
Like Stefan is acting all petty, and lowly and bad mouthing Damon (i.e. how Damon is worse for Elena if Stefan is bad) .. Damon's damage is that, he will continue vying for Elena's affections and flirting and creating those "heated' moments with the girl he loves, even though he gives up on her like every 3rd episode, and even though HE KNOWS that she is technically in a complicated relationship with HIS OWN brother. Poor guy pulled by his heartstrings. :(
He thinks it's normal for him to be all boyfriend-y .. especially since they kissed aka Elena kissed her back. That was sort of a green flag for him. But in all fairness it was wrong because nothing was discussed and talked about. See that's the ROOT OF ALL PROBLEMS NON-SUPERNATURAL. Nobody REALLY talks, until it's danger time.
Yeah I have been mad at Elena, for some time. Especially after 3x14. Never Hated her though.
At 3x15 I felt really bad for her, because like Caroline said that it's soo good that she's saved, but bad things INDEED happened because of her. I mean it wasn't AT ALL her fault and if she had the opportunity she would have taken the fall herself, but doesn't change the fact that people get hurt or die because something regarding Elena.My thoughts are that THIS right here is what Elena always wanted to avoid, the non-selfless portion of being a martyr, where she is blamed for the misfortune of loved ones and is sorta alienated.
So yeah, indeed her harsh words hurt me, her actions and a little stupidity caused me pain, but after some re-thinking I got them. And got them or not I Love The Girl. And Caroline, And Bonnie. But yeah I think this will be a huge motivator for Elena not to let her humanity get in the way, plus she has to maintain her humanity AND act accordingly in a Elena-line manner (so that EVEN IF she doesn't become a Katherine by loving both Salvatore's, she HAS to ensure that she doesn't ALSO become a Katherine by acting differently or mercilessly either) in scenarios and problems coming up ahead.