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My uncle Mark moved back home from California and into his parents' (my maternal grandparents') house in 1990. He had been unemployed for some five years before then, and hasn't been employed since. Exactly what's going on with him is a mystery to me. I don't know if he has some sort of mental illness or if he just has a tragic case of laziness.
This isn't an entirely bad thing. The best way for a person to live out their twilight years is at home with the help of some compassionate person who can take care of their needs. When my grandfather was declining, he had my grandmother and Mark to take care of him. When my grandmother was declining, she had Mark. (I often wondered if Mark's care was as good as it could be, but that's history now.)
I have no idea what Mark's financial situation is now. My grandparents apparently had a significant sum of money, as well as a fully paid-for house, which is (to my understanding) supposed to be divided between Mark and my mom. Whether he has enough to live out the rest of his life without income, I don't know.
A couple of days after my grandmother's funeral, Mark called me. He told me that I could have almost anything I wanted out of the house -- but keep it between him and me (and my brother, who he was going to tell the same thing). I said okay, but didn't feel very comfortable about the idea of taking things without my mom's knowledge. After contemplating it for a short while, i decided to just sit back and wait and hope that they get the estate settled amicably. If and when the subject comes up with Mark again, I'll tell him that I don't want to take anything large or valuable out of the house without both parties' consent. I know Mom wouldn't mind me taking most anything I wanted, but nonetheless, I don't want to have to sneak around to do it.
I haven't talked to Mark since then, but I've talked to Mom a couple of times. (I've been feeling a bit more family-oriented than usual since the funeral.) Yesterday, she was telling me about how things were going with the estate. In short, not well. Both Mom and Mark are stubborn people. I tried to gently tell her that even though some of his demands may be a bit ridiculous from her point of view, maybe they make some sense from his. Also, sometimes you have to play along to get along. It would be better to submit to some of his demands than to end up getting completely screwed. Unfortunately, Mom and Mark are both very stubborn people.
I want to see this estate settled fairly. Not just for the sake of peace in the family, but because I'm a very selfish person. There is some furniture in the house that I think I'd like to have -- some bedroom furniture and maybe the piano. But, as I said, until there is agreement between the two of them, I don't want to take anything out of the house. I don't mind waiting, but I hope it doesn't stretch out for months or years.
This isn't an entirely bad thing. The best way for a person to live out their twilight years is at home with the help of some compassionate person who can take care of their needs. When my grandfather was declining, he had my grandmother and Mark to take care of him. When my grandmother was declining, she had Mark. (I often wondered if Mark's care was as good as it could be, but that's history now.)
I have no idea what Mark's financial situation is now. My grandparents apparently had a significant sum of money, as well as a fully paid-for house, which is (to my understanding) supposed to be divided between Mark and my mom. Whether he has enough to live out the rest of his life without income, I don't know.
A couple of days after my grandmother's funeral, Mark called me. He told me that I could have almost anything I wanted out of the house -- but keep it between him and me (and my brother, who he was going to tell the same thing). I said okay, but didn't feel very comfortable about the idea of taking things without my mom's knowledge. After contemplating it for a short while, i decided to just sit back and wait and hope that they get the estate settled amicably. If and when the subject comes up with Mark again, I'll tell him that I don't want to take anything large or valuable out of the house without both parties' consent. I know Mom wouldn't mind me taking most anything I wanted, but nonetheless, I don't want to have to sneak around to do it.
I haven't talked to Mark since then, but I've talked to Mom a couple of times. (I've been feeling a bit more family-oriented than usual since the funeral.) Yesterday, she was telling me about how things were going with the estate. In short, not well. Both Mom and Mark are stubborn people. I tried to gently tell her that even though some of his demands may be a bit ridiculous from her point of view, maybe they make some sense from his. Also, sometimes you have to play along to get along. It would be better to submit to some of his demands than to end up getting completely screwed. Unfortunately, Mom and Mark are both very stubborn people.
I want to see this estate settled fairly. Not just for the sake of peace in the family, but because I'm a very selfish person. There is some furniture in the house that I think I'd like to have -- some bedroom furniture and maybe the piano. But, as I said, until there is agreement between the two of them, I don't want to take anything out of the house. I don't mind waiting, but I hope it doesn't stretch out for months or years.