Mum is driving me insane
It has to be said having a manic depressive mother sucks big time as to say Mum is doing my head in at the moment is an understatement. She is making life unbearable constantly nagging at Dave for not having a job and has a go at him when he stays up late or all night but he suffers from insomnia so has very eratic sleep patterns. I know it was never meant to be a long term thing him moving in but we didn't realise finding our own place would be so difficult. We went to the various housing organisations but the problem is they ask the number of rooms you have and in their opinion this house is big enough for us to stay living here. In theory it is, but it's the humans that are causing the problem!
Having it constantly thrown in my face how stupid I was getting pregnant when I'm not living in my own house is bugging me as well. Ok in hindsight Dave and I were silly not using protection but he's always been told the chance of him having kids is non-existant so we thought there was no risk. Also, if we had used protection he would never have found out he could have kids so it works both ways. He's deliriously happy at being a Dad as he had accepted the only way for him to have kids was adopting. Who knows if we'd be able to have more kids in the future but that's way down the line.
Mum thinks I should have met Dave, got married and got a place before starting a family but that wasn't the case and with the housing market at the moment there's no way we can afford to buy our own place anyway. Hopefully we can rent somewhere but I was looking online earlier and the cheapest places said no children. I have no idea what's happening with the Housing Association as we got a letter thanking us for taking Rhiannon's birth certificate in and it also referred to us having use of a double and single room but that's not the case as our spare room is being used as a store room at the moment so is not useable.
I have enough stress in my life coping with looking after Rhiannon so don't need her adding to it.
I've got an evening without Dave too as he's gone to Bridgend to join his friends roleplaying, and as we were heading to his Mum tomorrow anyway we agreed he may aswell stay with her overnight and I'll drive up tomorrow. He only left 3/4 an hour ago and I'm missing him already! The break will do him good though and it gives him a reprieve from Mum for a night although she'll probably moan at him leaving me to look after Rhiannon on my own.
Whatever I do is wrong or not good enough so I can't win and the sooner we do get a place of our own the better or I can see me falling out with Mum big time and wanting nothing to do with her. She says she doesn't want that to happen but she's the only one causing a problem and driving me away.
Having it constantly thrown in my face how stupid I was getting pregnant when I'm not living in my own house is bugging me as well. Ok in hindsight Dave and I were silly not using protection but he's always been told the chance of him having kids is non-existant so we thought there was no risk. Also, if we had used protection he would never have found out he could have kids so it works both ways. He's deliriously happy at being a Dad as he had accepted the only way for him to have kids was adopting. Who knows if we'd be able to have more kids in the future but that's way down the line.
Mum thinks I should have met Dave, got married and got a place before starting a family but that wasn't the case and with the housing market at the moment there's no way we can afford to buy our own place anyway. Hopefully we can rent somewhere but I was looking online earlier and the cheapest places said no children. I have no idea what's happening with the Housing Association as we got a letter thanking us for taking Rhiannon's birth certificate in and it also referred to us having use of a double and single room but that's not the case as our spare room is being used as a store room at the moment so is not useable.
I have enough stress in my life coping with looking after Rhiannon so don't need her adding to it.
I've got an evening without Dave too as he's gone to Bridgend to join his friends roleplaying, and as we were heading to his Mum tomorrow anyway we agreed he may aswell stay with her overnight and I'll drive up tomorrow. He only left 3/4 an hour ago and I'm missing him already! The break will do him good though and it gives him a reprieve from Mum for a night although she'll probably moan at him leaving me to look after Rhiannon on my own.
Whatever I do is wrong or not good enough so I can't win and the sooner we do get a place of our own the better or I can see me falling out with Mum big time and wanting nothing to do with her. She says she doesn't want that to happen but she's the only one causing a problem and driving me away.