On Second thought...
OK, I am NOT falling for Bass Boy. Reality check, Carolyn, remember, he's kinda nutty?
I love the Boy dearly, I am finding that I have an open heart with him and really dig his company, but he's got some serious emotional imbalances that shake me up when they happen. I have never dated anyone with bi-polar before and I am uncertain how to negotiate around the mood swings and depression.
When he is "up", he is so fun, we have such a great time and the sex is awesome and we connect really well emotionally. When he's "down" he's introverted, closed off and distant, he doesn't want to touch and he gets really intense about any perceived slight from me (like a few weeks ago when I wanted to go home and he freaked out). He's admitted to not taking his meds regularly or eating well, so his moods have been strange this week.
His tendency to self medicate on non-prescription drugs has such a deep effect on him as well, but I feel it is not my place to get him to understand this, as he takes it as criticism and shuts down. My acceptance of what he does to himself with the understanding that he's a big boy and does what he does seems to be what works easiest for me. I can't be a mommy to him. As long as I can maintain my boundaries when needed, I think I can still be friends with him.
I am trying to accept this as the Whole Package of Bass Boy and it's been interesting trying to understand it all.
I love the Boy dearly, I am finding that I have an open heart with him and really dig his company, but he's got some serious emotional imbalances that shake me up when they happen. I have never dated anyone with bi-polar before and I am uncertain how to negotiate around the mood swings and depression.
When he is "up", he is so fun, we have such a great time and the sex is awesome and we connect really well emotionally. When he's "down" he's introverted, closed off and distant, he doesn't want to touch and he gets really intense about any perceived slight from me (like a few weeks ago when I wanted to go home and he freaked out). He's admitted to not taking his meds regularly or eating well, so his moods have been strange this week.
His tendency to self medicate on non-prescription drugs has such a deep effect on him as well, but I feel it is not my place to get him to understand this, as he takes it as criticism and shuts down. My acceptance of what he does to himself with the understanding that he's a big boy and does what he does seems to be what works easiest for me. I can't be a mommy to him. As long as I can maintain my boundaries when needed, I think I can still be friends with him.
I am trying to accept this as the Whole Package of Bass Boy and it's been interesting trying to understand it all.