And the storm's coming from her eyes...she is raging
1. Had a nice phone date with Sugar Daddy #1. We talked for 1.5 hours and it flowed well, he seems really cool and open minded and has been doing this for awhile. He's got cash & his own business, but is not looking for a Full-On Sugar Daddy Role. He just likes to take women out and treat them well. That's cool with me. We have an actual date next Thursday for Indian food. Should be interesting.
2. Can I say that I truly hate my sister right now? She still owes me (now) well over $1800 for a stupid drugged out fuck-up on her part in not paying my mom's home care bill, so it went on my CC card. 5 months later she has not given me a cent, now she is blaming me for "allowing" the home care people to charge my card as per the contract I signed, stating that if the bill's not paid, they will charge my card. She must have somehow forgot that she fucked up and didn't pay the bills for 3 months. Must have been the Valiums, the sleeping pills, the PMS pills, the Allergy Pills, the Anti-psychotic pills, the morphine or the alcohol.
3. Halloween kinda got fucked up, too. Went to a party with all the kids and mommies at a friends house, same place that Tobias rent's an in-law. We did our transition of duties at the beginning of the party and I became "Carolyn" and not Mommy, and Tobias became "Daddy" and not Tobias. He went on Daddy-Duty, I wanted to drink and chat with my friends. Wasn't hard cuz the kids were excited and played with each other until 10:30 pm.
I was planning on going out to hear music and do some fun drugs, but stayed a bit later at the party cuz I love my friends. Next thing I know, Anya is crashing hard and wants to go home. I look for Tobias and can't find him to tell him Anya's ready to go downstairs. Anya's crashing and crashing and I step up to the Mommy-Plate and give her love, she now wants to go home with me. I call Tobias and find he left the party a few hours ago. Tobias came back up and I tell him he should have told me he was leaving, that he was on daddy duty and that's not cool to just leave Anya without telling me. He says that Anya was all about me anyway and he needed space from the party. He said that because I didn't leave the party to go on my own so he felt it was ok to just go back to his apartment.
This has been an issue ever since Anya was born, he just kinda disengages himself from a situation and thinks it's ok, that other's will fill in for him, even if he doesn't ask. He got all justified in his "but you were there, I assumed you'd handle it" I end up letting go of my plans for the evening since Anya was such a mess, I was ok with it for the sake of my daughter, but I was not ok with it for Tobias's sake.
The other part of this that I think is bugging me is that he is Hyper-Focused on his new relationship and I am affraid he is or will neglect his personal responsibility to Anya. They are going to Arizona in December to hang out with Laura and her family, and I am nervous that he will leave her in situations she is not comfortable with so he can focus on his lady love. Again, I am so happy with his new found love, but I am worried that he is so focused on it, kinda of in a narrow-eyed, "this is the only thing that matters" way, that he may do something to compromise Anya.
I wanted to ask him, "If I wasn't there last night, would you still have left her up there without telling anyone you were leaving, only to assume someone else would take care of her?" That's not cool.
2. Can I say that I truly hate my sister right now? She still owes me (now) well over $1800 for a stupid drugged out fuck-up on her part in not paying my mom's home care bill, so it went on my CC card. 5 months later she has not given me a cent, now she is blaming me for "allowing" the home care people to charge my card as per the contract I signed, stating that if the bill's not paid, they will charge my card. She must have somehow forgot that she fucked up and didn't pay the bills for 3 months. Must have been the Valiums, the sleeping pills, the PMS pills, the Allergy Pills, the Anti-psychotic pills, the morphine or the alcohol.
3. Halloween kinda got fucked up, too. Went to a party with all the kids and mommies at a friends house, same place that Tobias rent's an in-law. We did our transition of duties at the beginning of the party and I became "Carolyn" and not Mommy, and Tobias became "Daddy" and not Tobias. He went on Daddy-Duty, I wanted to drink and chat with my friends. Wasn't hard cuz the kids were excited and played with each other until 10:30 pm.
I was planning on going out to hear music and do some fun drugs, but stayed a bit later at the party cuz I love my friends. Next thing I know, Anya is crashing hard and wants to go home. I look for Tobias and can't find him to tell him Anya's ready to go downstairs. Anya's crashing and crashing and I step up to the Mommy-Plate and give her love, she now wants to go home with me. I call Tobias and find he left the party a few hours ago. Tobias came back up and I tell him he should have told me he was leaving, that he was on daddy duty and that's not cool to just leave Anya without telling me. He says that Anya was all about me anyway and he needed space from the party. He said that because I didn't leave the party to go on my own so he felt it was ok to just go back to his apartment.
This has been an issue ever since Anya was born, he just kinda disengages himself from a situation and thinks it's ok, that other's will fill in for him, even if he doesn't ask. He got all justified in his "but you were there, I assumed you'd handle it" I end up letting go of my plans for the evening since Anya was such a mess, I was ok with it for the sake of my daughter, but I was not ok with it for Tobias's sake.
The other part of this that I think is bugging me is that he is Hyper-Focused on his new relationship and I am affraid he is or will neglect his personal responsibility to Anya. They are going to Arizona in December to hang out with Laura and her family, and I am nervous that he will leave her in situations she is not comfortable with so he can focus on his lady love. Again, I am so happy with his new found love, but I am worried that he is so focused on it, kinda of in a narrow-eyed, "this is the only thing that matters" way, that he may do something to compromise Anya.
I wanted to ask him, "If I wasn't there last night, would you still have left her up there without telling anyone you were leaving, only to assume someone else would take care of her?" That's not cool.