Quandary...
Ok, here's the situation. My sister is graduating college Saturday of Memorial Day weekend (who decided that would be a good time for a graduation is beyond me, but that's the way it is). My grandmother has decided that she wants to throw my sister a big party. I guess that's nice of her, but she's having it in south Jersey (at least a 2 hour drive for most of guests...including the guest of honor) and she wants to invite all of our relatives from Philadelphia. We haven't seen the Philly side of our family since my great-grandfather passed away - I was 5! My sister is 7 years younger than me, that means that she's never met these people. Plus, my grandmother told her that this was a family party and she was only allowed to invite a few friends. This honestly sounds more like a family reunion than a graduation party. And to tell you the truth, my sister doesn't really want to have the party. She's just going along with it to make my grandmother happy.
That's only part of the dilemma. The thing that is bothering me is that the party is scheduled for Sunday, June 4th. June 2nd will be my five year wedding anniversary. My husband has been working for a couple months on a mini-vacation for that weekend. He was going to make arrangements for us to renew our vows. He wanted to invite our parents and few friends and take everyone away for the weekend. See, when we got married, we gave into our parents and did the wedding that they wanted (especially my dad). We felt obligated to do it because my dad was sick, he wasn't well enough to make it to the ceremony, and then he passed away 6 weeks after. My husband promised me that on our 5th anniversary that we could have the wedding that I always wanted - barefoot on the beach, at sunset, with palm trees and just a few special people. Well, I don't know all the plans. A good portion of them are a secret. But, I do know that we have a bit of a scheduling issue. My sister knows about everything (being that she is one of the people that is invited for the weekend) and she wants us to go ahead with our plans and not worry about the party. When I told my grandmother about it, she freaked out and told me that I have an obligation to my family to be at this party. She also told me that I would break her heart if we weren't there. My husband is trying to re-schedule everything to make the weekend from Thursday to Saturday instead of Friday to Sunday. The problem is that he's already booked some things and it's going to be a pain/cost more money to change them now. I don't know what to do. My sister doesn't care, besides...we're driving up to Mass. to see her graduate - it's not like we're ditching her. My mom thinks that we should continue on with our plans. I just don't know.
That's only part of the dilemma. The thing that is bothering me is that the party is scheduled for Sunday, June 4th. June 2nd will be my five year wedding anniversary. My husband has been working for a couple months on a mini-vacation for that weekend. He was going to make arrangements for us to renew our vows. He wanted to invite our parents and few friends and take everyone away for the weekend. See, when we got married, we gave into our parents and did the wedding that they wanted (especially my dad). We felt obligated to do it because my dad was sick, he wasn't well enough to make it to the ceremony, and then he passed away 6 weeks after. My husband promised me that on our 5th anniversary that we could have the wedding that I always wanted - barefoot on the beach, at sunset, with palm trees and just a few special people. Well, I don't know all the plans. A good portion of them are a secret. But, I do know that we have a bit of a scheduling issue. My sister knows about everything (being that she is one of the people that is invited for the weekend) and she wants us to go ahead with our plans and not worry about the party. When I told my grandmother about it, she freaked out and told me that I have an obligation to my family to be at this party. She also told me that I would break her heart if we weren't there. My husband is trying to re-schedule everything to make the weekend from Thursday to Saturday instead of Friday to Sunday. The problem is that he's already booked some things and it's going to be a pain/cost more money to change them now. I don't know what to do. My sister doesn't care, besides...we're driving up to Mass. to see her graduate - it's not like we're ditching her. My mom thinks that we should continue on with our plans. I just don't know.