Grabass?

[wendykh]

Last night I went to a bar and some guys there decided to start playing grabass. As in reaching over, grabbing my ass, and then whistling dixie like they have nooooo idea who did it. This happened about a half dozen times with varying levels of my disappointment relayed to them

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[dgg]

See? This kind of juvenile behaviour bugs the crap out of me because guess who has to bear the ultimate retribution of all women being harassed like that?

Me.

I swear, by the time it is my turn to step into a lady's personal space, the lady in question has had enough and has decided to take out all her frustrations on me. Except I have never ever done anything! The most offending thing I have done to a lady in a bar was ask "Excuse me miss, is this seat taken?"

Her: "That's it! I've had it!" *Drink in the face*

I've been slapped, shoved, scratched, burned with a cigarette, for every perceived minor social faux-pas. Once I asked a lady if she could please step aside because she was standing in a high traffic area and happened to be blocking my way. Guess what Momma, all those times you grilled me to say 'please' and be polite and kind, especially with the ladies was for naught, 'cuz they still tell me to "fuck off". If there is a lineup and I have to wait in line behind a lady for something...I can start counting down from 10 and before I hit 5, the lady is going to get hostile. It's gotten to the point that if a woman makes eye-contact with me, I throw my hands up in the air and beg "Don't hurt me! I'm innocent!"

This is just one of the many reasons why I am building a bar in my basement.

[taxlady]

I'm sorry to hear that you have that experience. But, don't you think that putting all women into one box is the same problem that you are experiencing, i.e., women who put all men into one box?

[dgg]

All things being equal, and given the assumption that we are all free-thinking human beings; yes, it is wrong of me to place all women in one box. But unfortunately, a bar is not a place where free-thinking rational behavior is common place. It's like driving in this city...I have to expect that at least one person is going to be an asshole and that I am going to be the unfortunate soul that will encounter that asshole. It presents a social nuance where I am treated as a hostile for the crime of being a male stranger. But I don't blame the woman for that. It's the countless jerks that the woman encountered before encountering me that are to be blamed. Now add alcohol, tight spaces and juvenile jerks like the OP experienced to the equation and I can guarantee you, I am getting a "Fuck off" by the end of the night.

[wendykh]

I want a basement bar as well. Actually, I'd like it to be top floor and then have a terrasse. Obviously only cool people can come.

To be fair to you, I have noticed there are a lot of nasty bitchy women in this town. If it helps, they probably would have told me to fuck off for asking them to move too.