Because I'm a---VAM-pye-ahhhh!!!!

[mommyissa]

Well, this is day three of Natalie's runny disaster. It's about 20% better now. We took her to this urgent care place at Ford rd and Beech Daly, and they told me not only that I just have to ride it out, but that those are her front teeth they were just coming in outer corners first AND she's got both eyeteeth along with another one back on the

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[mommyissa]

I do understand where you personally are coming from. I always thought that your ex was a pompous ******** I'm censoring myself because he is still the father of your child and all that. He always came off like he thinks he's such hot shit and superior to everyone, especially women. I do think there's something to be said for the traditional male and female roles, I don't like this androgynous thing that's being pushed the last few years, I'm sick of wussy boys (Note:I don't care who I offend by that, offended people should watch Fight Club..the part especially where Brad Pitt talks about his generation of boys being raised by their mothers). But you and G were MAN and wife, not HUSBAND and WIFE. You know? I'm sure you know better than I do.
I remember D talking to me about how things were for you and I wanted to rip G's face off, that was like 3 years ago!
I guess I'm saying I don't blame you for your opinion about marriage, but I know for a fact that you have definitely picked someone who's at least going to treat you nicely this time around.

[pure_doxyk]

Actually, not to start a huge discussion that would probably be a lot more fun in person (*g*), but my low opinion of marriage is based mostly on how hard it turned out to be to get *out* of. Gary and I may have been horribly mis-matched, but we sure didn't know it at first -- we really took our time and tried to do things right, and it worked for better than five years, heh. But in spite of how easy our divorce was--we agreed on everything--it still ended up being a real mess trying to undo that mistake. It cost almost ten grand (and that's with me getting free legal services, thanks to my dad) and took more than six months, and you end up with the legal system (and how much money you can scrape together) determining the details of your personal life.

I had a BIG problem with all those strangers telling us what to do and what they thought was best for our kid, and then that being how it was, regardless of what we thought. Yeah, I've got me a wonderful boy now, but no matter who I find, I don't think I'll ever want Uncle Sam's nose in my business that far again. ;) So that's me.

Happy T-Day -- Sounds like we've both got a lot to be thankful for! -K*

Why are we so cool online, but awkward in person? :P

[mommyissa]

I agree with. You're her mother & that would seriously piss me off having some stranger deciding things about her. I'd prolly lose it. Ask Dan about how I get with my strong opinions. Ask him about how eventually we absolutely couldn't talk about the death penalty (he's against it, I'm all about eye for an eye), because the fight would last for days. I think it's funny now (like the 24 hour long blow-out about the dictionary), but damn! heheh
That's true it did seem like you & Gary really tried to do things right & maybe they were right at the time, but that time ended...with a vengeance.
By the way what you said earlier about in-laws made a LOT of sense, I wholeheartedly agree. I've done a lot of soul-searching about it, more so after what you said. My conclusion is that while a lot of times his parents are total froot luips (His mom is like Marie Romano from 'Everybody Loves Raymond,' his dad is the dad from 'Rebel Without a Cause'), there are times when they are really great. When he was being a prick for Natalie's first 3 months (he's kind of a jock & putting family before Loser 'friends,' beer & karaoke is unheard of among them) I eventually couldn't take it anymore(Read my first several entries), & basically tattled on him to his parents. It killed me to do it, I didn't want to mortify him that way. At the same time I knew the real Brian & I wanted to get that guy to stay out instead of his, "I'm-a-follower-I-do-what-my-alleged-friends-say-so-they-will-accept-me-taking-care-of-children-is-women's-work" thing. I called his parents & pretty much begged them to talk to him. They couldn't have done it better if they tried. He doesn't even remember being such a jerk! He finally figured out that these so-called friends didn't give 2 shits about him & I did/do & when it comes down to it, he'll always have me right beside him & his friends will be elbows & assholes going down the road.
I guess I'm saying that his parents are ok enough for me to be able to be their daughter-in-law, but I'm glad that they live all the way out in Howell.
Happy Thanksgiving to you, too! Give Dan a good friend hug. I know today is hard on his family, very sad anniversary for them.

Re: Why are we so cool online, but awkward in person? :P

[pure_doxyk]

Heh, don't take it wrong; I'm just a very, very awkward human being.

I'm also very lucky, in a whole lot of ways. May you be too. ;)

-K*

Re: Why are we so cool online, but awkward in person? :P

[mommyissa]

hahaha, ok!
That's good, we all deserve some happiness and love, right?
I'm definitely lucky in a lot of ways, too, thanks!