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if a friend tells me someone from highschool got pregnant, i wouldnt be surprised. it seems to be normal nowadays for someone my age or younger to be having kids. my morals are still sex after marriage, which are not necessarily right nor do they make me better than anyone else. i realized its just something i personally want to live by. but what i really hate is when people hear about this and then assume that i only think this way because im catholic. not entirely true. my main reason of why i think people should wait is because becoming a parent is one of the most important jobs you're going to have in your whole entire life. i shouldnt even call it a job but for lack of a better word at 1 in the morning i'm gona stick with it. the partner you choose to raise your child with, the environment you put them in, the way you interact with them, all have a huge impact on your child. parents are the ones who show you what love is, they're your safety nets when you need to retreat from all the crazy things out there. we all like to think we're independent. but there's always a part of us that wants to know that when we get scared we'll have someone to be there for us to tell us its okay and reassure us that they're always going to be there for us even if we fail. new parents these days have to understand that they are honestly raising the children of the future, as corny as that sounds. you might be fostering the next prime minister, the next NBA all star, the next teacher... or even the next bully in school or the next rude person giving you the finger while you're driving. we wonder sometimes why people are so rude nowadays, why they have no empathy. did we ever stop and think that maybe its just the way they were raised? maybe their parents were rude to one another and that's how they've been taught to treat other people. maybe we have bullies not because these kids are born with a "bully gene" but because these kids dont get attention at home and have low self esteem so to feel better about themselves they decide to take it out on an innocent person. your child does end up living most of their life learning on their own, but the sense of love and self esteem that they live with for the rest of their lives come from their parents. so to make a long ass point short, people need to realize its not easy to be a parent. and if you're not ready to fully devote your whole life to raising a wonderful human being, then you really need to think twice about some choices in your life.
and someone may ask, where do i get off talking about how to be a parent? because as someone myself who is not close to either of her parents, i would really wish i could be. but if you haven't built a relationship with your child from the beginning its really hard to build it when they're 21 years old. it also doesnt help when parents are consumed with their own personal lives and dont make time for you. ie. skyping your boyfriend while your child is asking advice about the future. so yeah, age doesnt make a difference i guess because even two 50 year olds cant get it right but just honestly give your children the attention they need and deserve and the love that they will always cherish.
yuuuuuup, i should really apply to hallmark so i can make cheesy cards.
and someone may ask, where do i get off talking about how to be a parent? because as someone myself who is not close to either of her parents, i would really wish i could be. but if you haven't built a relationship with your child from the beginning its really hard to build it when they're 21 years old. it also doesnt help when parents are consumed with their own personal lives and dont make time for you. ie. skyping your boyfriend while your child is asking advice about the future. so yeah, age doesnt make a difference i guess because even two 50 year olds cant get it right but just honestly give your children the attention they need and deserve and the love that they will always cherish.
yuuuuuup, i should really apply to hallmark so i can make cheesy cards.