My heart = God's personal hackey sack
I should probably update that not 5 minutes after the previous post, this very same girl told me she just needed me as a friend for now. She's not saying it will NEVER be more, but she's not saying it definitely will be. She just says her whole head is too messed up to pursue anything serious.
As of right now she wants to contact the guy from Ireland who is the reason she's so messed up. She wants to talk things through with him and figure out what's going on there (as if something will ever go on from Ireland). From there comes what is likely to be the long drawn out process of getting over him, assuming that they decide nothing will ever happen and they should both move on.
Basically the way this is going to work is we're friends but not backing COMPLETELY to friends status....flirting is the only thing right now that has been stated as ok, cause she didn't think that far ahead. (in which case I don't know how that would be different from our friendship in the past).
To top it off everyone in my life is telling me to do the opposite of what I want to do. They think i'm stupid for being understanding about her need to figure things out for herself before jumping into anything. Just a bit of advice....I don't want to hear how stupid I am when I feel as shitty as I do. Let me figure things out.
All of my life i've been the "What if" guy, and it has caused me to miss out on a lot of great opportunities...I refuse to do that anymore. So I'm going to wait around until I feel there is no point anymore. I would much rather wait and know for a fact than to just give up and always wonder "What if?"
As of right now she wants to contact the guy from Ireland who is the reason she's so messed up. She wants to talk things through with him and figure out what's going on there (as if something will ever go on from Ireland). From there comes what is likely to be the long drawn out process of getting over him, assuming that they decide nothing will ever happen and they should both move on.
Basically the way this is going to work is we're friends but not backing COMPLETELY to friends status....flirting is the only thing right now that has been stated as ok, cause she didn't think that far ahead. (in which case I don't know how that would be different from our friendship in the past).
To top it off everyone in my life is telling me to do the opposite of what I want to do. They think i'm stupid for being understanding about her need to figure things out for herself before jumping into anything. Just a bit of advice....I don't want to hear how stupid I am when I feel as shitty as I do. Let me figure things out.
All of my life i've been the "What if" guy, and it has caused me to miss out on a lot of great opportunities...I refuse to do that anymore. So I'm going to wait around until I feel there is no point anymore. I would much rather wait and know for a fact than to just give up and always wonder "What if?"