Trust
I'm mentally re-visiting this previous post tonight.
I was watching a reality tv show called 90 day fiancee. Basically people who bring a potential spouse over to the US from another country and have 90 days to wed before the fiancee visa expires. It's typical reality tv train wrecks.
The girl from Brazil (who had barely moved in, like under a week) found a porn magazine in her fiancee's house. Apparently he told her he would get rid of all the porn. (She's self-admittedly crazy jealous.) So she is rummaging through his house while he's at work trying to find his porn stash. And she has the nerve to say that the most important thing in a relationship is trust.
She seems to think trust is "show me all the evidence and if you told me the truth, I might deem you trustworthy". I think trust means I'll believe you until you show evidence you're not trustworthy.
So yeah, as typical all roads lead to Mars.
I realized I know several people that are still looking at trusting the band in the Brazilian girl's way. They're waiting for the band to fail or only trusting when the band reveals lots and lots of details.
Saying "the most important thing is trust" for me with Mars is trusting them with or without enough information. This opposite (and frankly baffling) definition seems to be: "I'll only trust if you tell me everything and I still approve". Yeah, that's not gonna happen.
Trust is instinctive (empathetic) and trust is proven (empirical). Mars is both for me.
I don't know what is missing in other people. Empathy or standards, because Mars has never let us down. Not in anything that matters.