It's been a really long time since I've written...I sort of forgot about livejournal. But there is so much that is going on right now that I don't really know where to begin. So much inside my head, at least
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1)I suggest you take in a few really deep breaths 2)Get yourself some chamomile tea and make yourself a nice hot cup 3)turn on your fav music (probably the cd I made you for your birthday)and read some Harry Potter if you haven't finished it yet...it'll take you out of this world for the time being
Yeah, those things have nothing to do with your entry, but they may relax you...you need some time to relax.
As for if you're depressed or not, I can't tell you. The person who can would be a counselor of sorts. AND I would suggest going to one. It helped me step outside of my box and look at its reality. AND, its not as if seeing a counselor is a forever thing. You can stop anytime you want to or when you feel as though you've recieved the help you sought.
As for your relationship. Its EXTREMELY difficult for me not to tell you "screw it, and don't put up with bullshit." But, I can't. I can't because I put up with Mike's bs, and things are good. It took 4 years to get here, but they're good. Its not perfect and I will never expect it to be. Relationships are WORK! They take work, compromising, and communication from BOTH sides. Mebbe all the steps you take forward to only go back are just what it takes for you to REALLY get to know each other. Lessons of sorts. I know Mike and I went over the same steps more than a few times, but that's what it took for me to see it from his perspective and him from mine. And as for your parents approval, I would put it in the background for now. Your relationship with Andrew is still VERY young and new, but that isn't to say that there isn't something there. I can see that there is a real relationship that's started and there isn't anything that should deter you from that. Not anyone's opinion matters except for the two of yours. I wouldn't let this sucky anniversary bring you down, despite that its a major thing, its just ONE day. There are many of other days that you can look forward to. Let this one pass...BELIEVE ME! Here's what I think is wrong: you giving up things to be with him and the amount of time you spend with him. You should NEVER give up the things that make you happy for a boy. And the fact that you feel like his mother is just wrong. You should never feel like his mother. Care for..yes, but never like his mother. He's already got one of those. Whether she taught him well or not...she's his mother. You should share this entry with him, sweetheart. If he really wants to make this work, he needs to realize what's important to you. He needs to realize that just because some girl likes you doesn't mean that they're instantly morphing into your life (which is what I mean by you giving up stuff and your feeling like his mother). There's a lot to be said for the courting part of a relationship. I also think you need a best friend that isn't Andrew.
As for what happens when school starts, I don't know. Time will only tell. I also believe that when you're there, you need to re-prioritize. It'll give you a clear mindset. PS-gimme a call if you need to. I'm here for ya! especially if ANY of this doesn't make any sense to you!
2)Get yourself some chamomile tea and make yourself a nice hot cup
3)turn on your fav music (probably the cd I made you for your birthday)and read some Harry Potter if you haven't finished it yet...it'll take you out of this world for the time being
Yeah, those things have nothing to do with your entry, but they may relax you...you need some time to relax.
As for if you're depressed or not, I can't tell you. The person who can would be a counselor of sorts. AND I would suggest going to one. It helped me step outside of my box and look at its reality. AND, its not as if seeing a counselor is a forever thing. You can stop anytime you want to or when you feel as though you've recieved the help you sought.
As for your relationship. Its EXTREMELY difficult for me not to tell you "screw it, and don't put up with bullshit." But, I can't. I can't because I put up with Mike's bs, and things are good. It took 4 years to get here, but they're good. Its not perfect and I will never expect it to be. Relationships are WORK! They take work, compromising, and communication from BOTH sides. Mebbe all the steps you take forward to only go back are just what it takes for you to REALLY get to know each other. Lessons of sorts. I know Mike and I went over the same steps more than a few times, but that's what it took for me to see it from his perspective and him from mine. And as for your parents approval, I would put it in the background for now. Your relationship with Andrew is still VERY young and new, but that isn't to say that there isn't something there. I can see that there is a real relationship that's started and there isn't anything that should deter you from that. Not anyone's opinion matters except for the two of yours. I wouldn't let this sucky anniversary bring you down, despite that its a major thing, its just ONE day. There are many of other days that you can look forward to. Let this one pass...BELIEVE ME! Here's what I think is wrong: you giving up things to be with him and the amount of time you spend with him. You should NEVER give up the things that make you happy for a boy. And the fact that you feel like his mother is just wrong. You should never feel like his mother. Care for..yes, but never like his mother. He's already got one of those. Whether she taught him well or not...she's his mother.
You should share this entry with him, sweetheart. If he really wants to make this work, he needs to realize what's important to you. He needs to realize that just because some girl likes you doesn't mean that they're instantly morphing into your life (which is what I mean by you giving up stuff and your feeling like his mother). There's a lot to be said for the courting part of a relationship. I also think you need a best friend that isn't Andrew.
As for what happens when school starts, I don't know. Time will only tell. I also believe that when you're there, you need to re-prioritize. It'll give you a clear mindset.
PS-gimme a call if you need to. I'm here for ya! especially if ANY of this doesn't make any sense to you!
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