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[miszuniverz]

I found out today that my Grandpa died.

My mom woke me up because I fell asleep after my post work shower.   She said:

"Pizza's here.  (pause)  Oh, and Grandpa just Died."

I don't know how I feel about that.  Something inside just made me so infuriated.  How can you lump the death of my Grandpa with my mundane dinner?This delivery has  irritated me

Comments

[onecentwise]

I'm sorry Nicole, you have my deepest condolences. When my maternal grandfather passed I was away at school freshman year and couldn't make it home for his funeral.

To your mother's defense, maybe she just did not know how to tell you and from her own grief, it just came out not realizing it was an insensitive way to inform you.

[weezerchild703]

I was going to express similar sentiments - about the delivery.

I'm sorry Nicole. Unfortunately the situation you described with your grandfather ailing sounds too familiar to me as I've had several relatives go through something similar, and it's really tough. It's hard to see people you love living a life that really isn't life. And once they pass away it's incredibly sad, but you know that they were in a lot of pain and so bittersweet it is.

Just try to remember all the good times, before he got sick, before the hospital and home visits, and all the love and wonderful times you've had.

[miszuniverz]

Thanks you guys.

I guess its just hitting me a lot harder because I was living with him over the past four years so I was a witness to his struggle. I'm sorry you guys had to go through this as well.

Maybe you're right about the delivery. She also yelled at me because ben took me out for a drive, explaining that she thought I needed to be at home...but we did nothing but sit in silence for 15 minutes. Maybe that's just my moms way of saying I want you home with me....

[thischarmingkev]

I wouldn't be too mad at your mom --- it can be extremely difficult for some people to break news like that.

nonetheless, I'm sorry to hear. this kind of thing always sucks.

[miszuniverz]

I think the reason why I was so mad at her is that when people are angry around me it really triggers me to be even more frustrated and angry. Her outlet for all this pain just happens to be anger. That's just the way she copes & I can't be angry at her because of that.

[nitesky]

*hug* We're here if there is anything we can do for you.