The boyfriend.

[misztracy]

Sometimes I wonder if he feels the same way as me. I don't mean to doubt him but if you know what our relationship has been through, I have all the right reasons to. It is just the simple things that make me wonder lately and I wonder if it is even worth my time. I'm not trying to determine whether or not I want to be with him because I know I do.

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[ngoc]

i thought he was working before as a manager of verizon or something? and you said he's a hard worker... why is he out of a job now? i don't get it. shouldn't it be easy for him to find a new job with his experience? but anyways, that's not the point.

i think if something bothers you, regardless of how MINUTE it is, you need to talk to him about it and tell him. it's the small things that happen all the time, that lead up to the BIG things later. plus, if it bothers you, then it should be important to him. so, he should be trying to listen to your side and how you feel or how he makes you feel when he treats you like that. if he cares, he would consider it next time before doing the same thing. but then again, he's a man... and men tend to FORGET things easily. so, he needs to be reminded. you shouldn't always give into him if he's like that. next time he wants to see you, tell him you're tired and don't want to see him! even if you really want to, you have to show him what it feels like to feel neglected or insignificant (because obviously, that's how he's making you feel by treating you like that and it's wrong).

part of a obtaining a long term relationships is through understanding one another's wants and needs and feelings. part of that is communication. another part is sacrafice, which you seem to know how to do but he isn't. another thing is that the love and time and efforts need to be reciprocated both ways. love is a 2 way street. right now from what you're saying, it seems like it's only going 1 way, which isn't going to work. i don't know the full story or the history of you two, but if he continues to be this way and not really show or care as much as you expect, then i think you should move on. there's no point in caring for someone how doesn't care back in return. it's a loss cause. =/

i do hope he changes and i hope it works out since it seems like you really love him. i don't want to see you sad or hurt. but just remember to take care of yourself first, and stand up for yourself, and know that you're the only one who could truly make yourself happy. *HUGS*

[misztracy]

Thanks sis. I do tell him how I feel but sometimes I feel like he's not listening. Honestly I think how most guys are right? Mom says we all ended up with the same time of guy, we talk talk talk talk, and they don't have anything to say. I understand its harder for men to open up with their feelings its just we have been through a lot of rough times and I really don't want to get too much into detail about that right now. So I have had a lot of doubts since then, etc. I have reasons to. But its ok.

Things are getting better now. He's trying and I'm trying my best to make sure my life is straight and help him through his struggles as well.