Communication Competence
Credit for this can go to Chris DeSurra who wrote out the questions I am writing the answers to.
1. Three things that I wish were easier for me would probably have to be attaining a job, conversing comfortably with people, and being able to speak in public without feeling like I'm going to implode.
2. Two things that I wish came more naturally to me would have to be conversing with people, again, and being comfortable enough with myself to "let loose", as my boyfriend says.
3. The biggest non-physical thing I'd like to improve about myself would have to be the attitude and thoughts that I have towards my immediate family.
4. The only person I can think of who is a competent or effective communicator in a particular area or situation would have to be my boyfriend. He's the only person I know who can drift a circle road, shoot his car into the air by being launched off a curb, hit a stop sign in mid air under his wheel that curled the sign, be approached by a police man who saw the whole things, say, "I lost control of my car," and have the police man laugh at him and let him go ticket free. What the hell...?
Brian is my boyfriend and I met him five years ago through a friend's birthday party, but we only started talking and becoming friends four years ago. Then almost two years ago we started going out and we've been together since.
He is extremely good at conversing with strangers and making countless good impressions with many different people. He's also really good at learning and perfecting things pretty darn quickly.
The skill he demonstrates is being able to change himself to match whatever situation he's in.
He acquired this skill by doing it since he was a kid. If there was someone interesting that he saw that he wanted to know about, he'd get to know about it. If there's someone he met that he wanted to be like in some way, he'd find out how that person got that way and then he'd make a change in himself to be better in a similar if not the same way.
5. Three things I could do to become a more competent or effective communicator would probably be shadowing Brian for a day, I mean really shadowing him ninja-style, cause if he knew I was there he might be paying more attention to me then to his friends because we don't get to see each other too often. Another thing I could do is just force myself into conversations with strangers, which I sometimes picture myself doing in my head and they seem to go well, but normally my imagination doesn't match up with what happens in real life. I think I would also have to practice being comfortable enough to show myself off, I guess you could say. I do like who I am for the most part, but I know for a fact that I don't talk to people as much as I used to and I'm not as outgoing as I once was. I made most of my friends by doing what Brian does today, but somewhere along the lines I got too shy and just stopped. I think the main thing I would need to do is figure out what went wrong and fix it so that it can come easily to me like it used to in middle school and most of high school.
1. Three things that I wish were easier for me would probably have to be attaining a job, conversing comfortably with people, and being able to speak in public without feeling like I'm going to implode.
2. Two things that I wish came more naturally to me would have to be conversing with people, again, and being comfortable enough with myself to "let loose", as my boyfriend says.
3. The biggest non-physical thing I'd like to improve about myself would have to be the attitude and thoughts that I have towards my immediate family.
4. The only person I can think of who is a competent or effective communicator in a particular area or situation would have to be my boyfriend. He's the only person I know who can drift a circle road, shoot his car into the air by being launched off a curb, hit a stop sign in mid air under his wheel that curled the sign, be approached by a police man who saw the whole things, say, "I lost control of my car," and have the police man laugh at him and let him go ticket free. What the hell...?
Brian is my boyfriend and I met him five years ago through a friend's birthday party, but we only started talking and becoming friends four years ago. Then almost two years ago we started going out and we've been together since.
He is extremely good at conversing with strangers and making countless good impressions with many different people. He's also really good at learning and perfecting things pretty darn quickly.
The skill he demonstrates is being able to change himself to match whatever situation he's in.
He acquired this skill by doing it since he was a kid. If there was someone interesting that he saw that he wanted to know about, he'd get to know about it. If there's someone he met that he wanted to be like in some way, he'd find out how that person got that way and then he'd make a change in himself to be better in a similar if not the same way.
5. Three things I could do to become a more competent or effective communicator would probably be shadowing Brian for a day, I mean really shadowing him ninja-style, cause if he knew I was there he might be paying more attention to me then to his friends because we don't get to see each other too often. Another thing I could do is just force myself into conversations with strangers, which I sometimes picture myself doing in my head and they seem to go well, but normally my imagination doesn't match up with what happens in real life. I think I would also have to practice being comfortable enough to show myself off, I guess you could say. I do like who I am for the most part, but I know for a fact that I don't talk to people as much as I used to and I'm not as outgoing as I once was. I made most of my friends by doing what Brian does today, but somewhere along the lines I got too shy and just stopped. I think the main thing I would need to do is figure out what went wrong and fix it so that it can come easily to me like it used to in middle school and most of high school.