Finally lets work on 1 and 2. Again...I believe I said it over and over and over again...online relationships is always about communication. I have no idea what happened between the both of you so I can only guess based on your track record. My assumption (please pardon me if I'm wrong) is...you didn't tell him what's going on with your life...you never told him the burden nor did you tell him about how it hurts you. oh sure you might have said "my friends are having trouble"...but you never say "my friends are dragging me everywhere"...you might have said "oh I'm going to fill out loan application with dad or mom or whoever" but you never said "I might not be getting a loan T_T" ...so often he wouldn't know the burden you go through and would think that nothing was wrong...why would he suspect otherwise right?...and having you being =( all the time doesn't help either...your mood would impact on him as well as your actions...which as you said was playing ms...I believe you said he was at a place where he couldn't play ms or something like that...where is he left now?...in the tarmac...he is left with nothing and there is only one thing he can think of given how much you told him...that you are neglecting him for no reason despite how you claim you miss him and play ms or whatever. No one I know would be willing to go through that. if you had told him everything he would undoubtly be a lot more understanding...the question is whether you did...or not. and hopefully you can see a peaceful solution as to how to handle 1 and 2 since I assume they are one e.e
lets talk about 7...it's very much like 3. you want to stay out of it...you make the claim you want to adn don't get involved...it's not your business e.e. if it was me...you know how I would do things...but we both know you...I like to stick my neck in adn risk getting myself hurt because I can't sit back while people suffer. to just mind your business is a more coldhearted attempt at handling the situation...and a more safer one. but it certainly won't be solidifying friendships anytime soon...well that's what I think anyway. you could relate what I say in 7 to 3 of course as I said...but that's my take on both situations
8. stick to what you said you would do is all i have to say here
9-10. you know the cause and also who's fault these things arose =x...I won't say more
As for the last few paragraphs I have something ot say too =x. All of this can be avoided if only you will it and do something about it. Your main problem I believe is your comunnication (or lack of for this matter) skillz and in the end you're left to suffer alone...which is why I always tell people about my problems in one form or another...sure they have their own problems to take care of...and yes I might be selfish this way but hey...that's what friends are for...friends are supposed to be for each other through thick and thin. and I would do the same for them (you know that I'm sure)...which means you..you can always come to me with your problems...you just opt not to which is why you have to do this alone and create many misunderstandings...you cannot avoid big conversations...I think it be best in your interest to get those over and done with to feel better...that is all...I apologise again for hte nature of my post...but you know me and my definition of "my business"...as far as I'm concerned I'm involved...oh well...sorry again...think it over...you might want to give that relationship one more try if you don't want misunderstandings to continue...that is...if my guess was correct =x
Finally lets work on 1 and 2. Again...I believe I said it over and over and over again...online relationships is always about communication. I have no idea what happened between the both of you so I can only guess based on your track record. My assumption (please pardon me if I'm wrong) is...you didn't tell him what's going on with your life...you never told him the burden nor did you tell him about how it hurts you. oh sure you might have said "my friends are having trouble"...but you never say "my friends are dragging me everywhere"...you might have said "oh I'm going to fill out loan application with dad or mom or whoever" but you never said "I might not be getting a loan T_T" ...so often he wouldn't know the burden you go through and would think that nothing was wrong...why would he suspect otherwise right?...and having you being =( all the time doesn't help either...your mood would impact on him as well as your actions...which as you said was playing ms...I believe you said he was at a place where he couldn't play ms or something like that...where is he left now?...in the tarmac...he is left with nothing and there is only one thing he can think of given how much you told him...that you are neglecting him for no reason despite how you claim you miss him and play ms or whatever. No one I know would be willing to go through that. if you had told him everything he would undoubtly be a lot more understanding...the question is whether you did...or not. and hopefully you can see a peaceful solution as to how to handle 1 and 2 since I assume they are one e.e
lets talk about 7...it's very much like 3. you want to stay out of it...you make the claim you want to adn don't get involved...it's not your business e.e. if it was me...you know how I would do things...but we both know you...I like to stick my neck in adn risk getting myself hurt because I can't sit back while people suffer. to just mind your business is a more coldhearted attempt at handling the situation...and a more safer one. but it certainly won't be solidifying friendships anytime soon...well that's what I think anyway. you could relate what I say in 7 to 3 of course as I said...but that's my take on both situations
8. stick to what you said you would do is all i have to say here
9-10. you know the cause and also who's fault these things arose =x...I won't say more
As for the last few paragraphs I have something ot say too =x. All of this can be avoided if only you will it and do something about it. Your main problem I believe is your comunnication (or lack of for this matter) skillz and in the end you're left to suffer alone...which is why I always tell people about my problems in one form or another...sure they have their own problems to take care of...and yes I might be selfish this way but hey...that's what friends are for...friends are supposed to be for each other through thick and thin. and I would do the same for them (you know that I'm sure)...which means you..you can always come to me with your problems...you just opt not to which is why you have to do this alone and create many misunderstandings...you cannot avoid big conversations...I think it be best in your interest to get those over and done with to feel better...that is all...I apologise again for hte nature of my post...but you know me and my definition of "my business"...as far as I'm concerned I'm involved...oh well...sorry again...think it over...you might want to give that relationship one more try if you don't want misunderstandings to continue...that is...if my guess was correct =x
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