Up to the sky and back
Goober is having issues again. The kid is just... ugh. I've been over it numerous times, so I'm not going to get into it here. (But if you don't know and are nosy, I have no problem discussing it. Just ask!) Whatever, he's just having a really rough time of it right now. It's ... poor kid. I had a conference with his teachers and counselor and all those types, and I am so very thankful that this year I'm actually getting support from them. SUCH an improvement over last year. I basically just showed up all, "Hi! Let's talk. Right now." And they DID. THOROUGHLY. ON NO NOTICE! Awesome.
I asked his teacher about his issues because, as I said to her, "I know you're not a doctor, but you are around lots of kids ALL DAY LONG, and I'm not an idiot. Obviously we're missing something here." So I asked her about some other possibilities for changes in therapies we've (me and the psychiatrist) discussed, and it seems she and I are on the same type of page. (Doc had thrown out ODD, and I said o the teacher, "maybe I'm seeing him through mom-eyes, but he's not so much defiant. He doesn't not do things because he's trying to get a reaction or trying to piss us off. He doesn't do things because he either doesn't see the point or he honest to god forgets to do it." Which she agreed with, so cool. I'm not raising a sociopath, just a crazycake.)
What I'm thinking - what we're all thinking - is that we've missed something. Either we've mis-diagnosed him, or something he's got is masking something ELSE he's got and we're just not getting at the root issues to make him ... well, happily functional. We've had happy. We've had functional. We have yet to experience both for any length of time.
Whatever, we'll work that out. We will get there.
But until then, I have to actually make sure all of us survive to get there. So there are some things I'm going to need to do differently. I called work and said to my boss the fact of it is that I have some things going on at home and Doofus and I need to be more available to the kids. If I have to take a leave, I will, or if I have to take out FMLA, I will, but I'd really like to work it out as just an adjustment of my hours. (That makes it sound like I was all pissy and adamant, and I wasn't, because I don't need to be.) Unfortunately, Doofus's work isn't quite as flexible as mine, so I got shafted and have to work evenings. I'll be home in the mornings to get everyone set and ready and pull conference duty and dr appointments and whatever else needs doing, and Doofus will be here at night to cover homework and that sort of stuff.
I can't complain, really, because on basically one day's notice, I totally rearranged not only my schedule, but that of my three other co-workers, and no one hates me for it. I also had a meeting with my boss and kinds of get a chance to prove myself promotion-worthy well before my actual review. Bright side. Seriously. And this is what's best for my kid, and that means way more to me than, you know, most anything else. Even working normal hours like a real live grown up.
No. Really. Bright side. Grr second shift.
I asked his teacher about his issues because, as I said to her, "I know you're not a doctor, but you are around lots of kids ALL DAY LONG, and I'm not an idiot. Obviously we're missing something here." So I asked her about some other possibilities for changes in therapies we've (me and the psychiatrist) discussed, and it seems she and I are on the same type of page. (Doc had thrown out ODD, and I said o the teacher, "maybe I'm seeing him through mom-eyes, but he's not so much defiant. He doesn't not do things because he's trying to get a reaction or trying to piss us off. He doesn't do things because he either doesn't see the point or he honest to god forgets to do it." Which she agreed with, so cool. I'm not raising a sociopath, just a crazycake.)
What I'm thinking - what we're all thinking - is that we've missed something. Either we've mis-diagnosed him, or something he's got is masking something ELSE he's got and we're just not getting at the root issues to make him ... well, happily functional. We've had happy. We've had functional. We have yet to experience both for any length of time.
Whatever, we'll work that out. We will get there.
But until then, I have to actually make sure all of us survive to get there. So there are some things I'm going to need to do differently. I called work and said to my boss the fact of it is that I have some things going on at home and Doofus and I need to be more available to the kids. If I have to take a leave, I will, or if I have to take out FMLA, I will, but I'd really like to work it out as just an adjustment of my hours. (That makes it sound like I was all pissy and adamant, and I wasn't, because I don't need to be.) Unfortunately, Doofus's work isn't quite as flexible as mine, so I got shafted and have to work evenings. I'll be home in the mornings to get everyone set and ready and pull conference duty and dr appointments and whatever else needs doing, and Doofus will be here at night to cover homework and that sort of stuff.
I can't complain, really, because on basically one day's notice, I totally rearranged not only my schedule, but that of my three other co-workers, and no one hates me for it. I also had a meeting with my boss and kinds of get a chance to prove myself promotion-worthy well before my actual review. Bright side. Seriously. And this is what's best for my kid, and that means way more to me than, you know, most anything else. Even working normal hours like a real live grown up.
No. Really. Bright side. Grr second shift.