...did I miss something?
Um, right. OK, so one of the guys they matched me with on eHarmony (a Hindu gentleman originally from the Delhi area) and I have made it to the open communication stage. We have a fair amount in common, but I don't presume us to be anything more than acquaintances at best. Yet, somehow, I think he may have been expecting more from me than I had figured. He did give me his cell number (I haven't called it, if only because the demands of motherhood sometimes cause abrupt interruptions/terminations of phone calls--email and IMs tend to work better for me), and I have given him my email. He has not emailed me outside of the eHarmony message system, though we have had a conversation or two on Y!M. Anyway, the last email between us, I sent to him, and he hasn't replied to it.
So, upon a conversation this evening, he said that he didn't feel like things were "clicking" because we never really conversed, and seemed to indicate that at least one of us wasn't trying hard enough and possibly didn't want this relationship... Yeah. And, since my responses were a bit slow due to a nursing baby at my bosom, he asked me if I was busy and I explained what I was doing. He immediately apologized for bugging me and told me good night, before I really got a chance to explain that he wasn't bothering me and the baby was almost asleep. I'm sure he was trying to be respectful, but it did feel like a brush-off. Huh.
Now, English isn't his first language, so maybe something got missed in translation? I don't know. Still, it seems like he was expecting a lot of dedication from a relationship that had barely started budding into friendship. It's not like we specifically planned any times to chat or anything and then had someone not show up. Ah well, if things are not to be in terms of romance, I'm fine if I just walk away with a new friend. Still, very weird.
So, upon a conversation this evening, he said that he didn't feel like things were "clicking" because we never really conversed, and seemed to indicate that at least one of us wasn't trying hard enough and possibly didn't want this relationship... Yeah. And, since my responses were a bit slow due to a nursing baby at my bosom, he asked me if I was busy and I explained what I was doing. He immediately apologized for bugging me and told me good night, before I really got a chance to explain that he wasn't bothering me and the baby was almost asleep. I'm sure he was trying to be respectful, but it did feel like a brush-off. Huh.
Now, English isn't his first language, so maybe something got missed in translation? I don't know. Still, it seems like he was expecting a lot of dedication from a relationship that had barely started budding into friendship. It's not like we specifically planned any times to chat or anything and then had someone not show up. Ah well, if things are not to be in terms of romance, I'm fine if I just walk away with a new friend. Still, very weird.