Dilemas!
Almost four years ago was my dad's 50th birthday. My mom had paid for the entire family and my boyfriend Rob to go away. We went to Punta Cana in the Dominican Republic for 7 nights and 8 days. My brothers girlfriend at the time would have went, but my mom didn't feel they were together long enough to take her. So anyways. We made the best of the trip and had fun, and laughs behind some mishaps. That was when My brother and Rob got along.
Now my moms 50th birthday is in October and my dad's planning her birthday getaway. Possibly the Bahamas. My brother and Rob no longer get along. I've spoke about it before in posts, but my brother just can't get over crap. Now i'm stuck. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place not only because of that also because of my vacation hours.
My Dilema's :
My brother and Rob don't get along. If I take Rob, My brother said for my mother he will get through one week, but will hardly speak to him. Umm if we are to do things as a family you must speak. Its not like we will just be eating dinner and thats it together. You need to get along before the vacation and after the vacation. You cannot pretend. It will be ackward, and uncomfortable. Not only for Rob, but myself and everyone else because tension will be in the air. If I don't take Rob then I'm stuck on an Island by myself, and if I speak about him my brother is going to crack jokes about him. He already said he will because he thinks its funny. Sorry not to me. Its just not going to happen either way. It will be ackward for everyone, and miserable. It won't be fun.
If things were good between them I would ask Rob to go and I know Rob would say yes, but since everything has been a mess for 2 years and I ask him to go I know he'll say no. I know why. I can see why, and I feel why. It would be the same for me if I were in that situation, but i'm not. My brother is just an asshole.
The next Dilema :
My Job. I've been there for a little over a year. After 7 months after your hire date you will start occurring a weeks vacation. Well between my personal/sick and vacation days, and my problem with my car i've exhausted all my days. I took off a bunch of days last summer, 4 days during christmas, and used my last personal day for my car since I didn't have a way to get there.
So this July will be my 2nd year. Its just the same as my first, but I will be occurring 2 weeks vacation through out the year. In March I will accumulate 2 days, and i'm already using them because I have plans. Then by June i'll have another day and I have to use that day for a Wedding. Then I will have possibly two more Weddings. Troy and Ginda's, and Its a possibility i'm going to be in Ginda's wedding. Then I have to take another day or two besides the wedding. Its not definate that i'm in it, but she's made hints. Then If Jennielynn and Grant decide a date then I have to take time for their wedding, and I wouldn't miss that for the world. That means I will use 5 days already and not including being in a wedding. By Aug I will have no days so August is just out for me to go on Vacation with my family. If we go in October then I'll have 4 days. The trip is a week. My dad said i'll only need 5 days to take off. So that means I can't take off any days in the summer. I can't have any emergencys or be sick because i'll have no time. I always like to save a day or 2 just incase because I can't predict the future. I can't just take a day off of work and loose money because you get written up. I can't take the time and say take it out of my next hours. Plus I can't loose money. The week we would be going is when my car payment is due, and then car insurance.
The bad part about my job is that they used to give your vacation in full now they don't they changed it.
In all. I'm screwed either way. From my brother and Rob not getting along. Not having enough hours to take off.
By tomorrow I have to have some decision. This sucks. If I had to ask Rob he has no time to think about it, and I think he should have time. I already know I cant finagle anything with my hours at work because I figured that out today.
I'm in a no win situation, and its my mother, and I hate hurting my family, and its hurting me inside. I have to tell them no sorry I can't go for your birthday go without me. I've already been to the bahamas so i'm not missing much, but still its my Mom. When I tell them this I know that they'll be very hurt. I'm going to end up crying tomorrow. I hate hurting anyones feelings especially my parents and or familys feelings. I have voiced my opinions with my brother for the past two days about it, and he turns around and says that I don't get it, and he can't talk to me about it. Its just because he doesn't want to hear what I have to say. I have been torn between my brother and my boyfriend trying to make everyone happy. I'm torn because I can't make my parents happy on this one. I'm torn because I can't make myself happy on this one. It will be my fault if this trip doesn't happen. I told my brother that my dad should use the money he would spend on all of us, and take her to Hawaii since I know she wants to go there, and it would make everything easier.
I hate hurting there feelings and I'm going to have to hurt them tomorrow.
I won't be sleeping tonight................
Now my moms 50th birthday is in October and my dad's planning her birthday getaway. Possibly the Bahamas. My brother and Rob no longer get along. I've spoke about it before in posts, but my brother just can't get over crap. Now i'm stuck. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place not only because of that also because of my vacation hours.
My Dilema's :
My brother and Rob don't get along. If I take Rob, My brother said for my mother he will get through one week, but will hardly speak to him. Umm if we are to do things as a family you must speak. Its not like we will just be eating dinner and thats it together. You need to get along before the vacation and after the vacation. You cannot pretend. It will be ackward, and uncomfortable. Not only for Rob, but myself and everyone else because tension will be in the air. If I don't take Rob then I'm stuck on an Island by myself, and if I speak about him my brother is going to crack jokes about him. He already said he will because he thinks its funny. Sorry not to me. Its just not going to happen either way. It will be ackward for everyone, and miserable. It won't be fun.
If things were good between them I would ask Rob to go and I know Rob would say yes, but since everything has been a mess for 2 years and I ask him to go I know he'll say no. I know why. I can see why, and I feel why. It would be the same for me if I were in that situation, but i'm not. My brother is just an asshole.
The next Dilema :
My Job. I've been there for a little over a year. After 7 months after your hire date you will start occurring a weeks vacation. Well between my personal/sick and vacation days, and my problem with my car i've exhausted all my days. I took off a bunch of days last summer, 4 days during christmas, and used my last personal day for my car since I didn't have a way to get there.
So this July will be my 2nd year. Its just the same as my first, but I will be occurring 2 weeks vacation through out the year. In March I will accumulate 2 days, and i'm already using them because I have plans. Then by June i'll have another day and I have to use that day for a Wedding. Then I will have possibly two more Weddings. Troy and Ginda's, and Its a possibility i'm going to be in Ginda's wedding. Then I have to take another day or two besides the wedding. Its not definate that i'm in it, but she's made hints. Then If Jennielynn and Grant decide a date then I have to take time for their wedding, and I wouldn't miss that for the world. That means I will use 5 days already and not including being in a wedding. By Aug I will have no days so August is just out for me to go on Vacation with my family. If we go in October then I'll have 4 days. The trip is a week. My dad said i'll only need 5 days to take off. So that means I can't take off any days in the summer. I can't have any emergencys or be sick because i'll have no time. I always like to save a day or 2 just incase because I can't predict the future. I can't just take a day off of work and loose money because you get written up. I can't take the time and say take it out of my next hours. Plus I can't loose money. The week we would be going is when my car payment is due, and then car insurance.
The bad part about my job is that they used to give your vacation in full now they don't they changed it.
In all. I'm screwed either way. From my brother and Rob not getting along. Not having enough hours to take off.
By tomorrow I have to have some decision. This sucks. If I had to ask Rob he has no time to think about it, and I think he should have time. I already know I cant finagle anything with my hours at work because I figured that out today.
I'm in a no win situation, and its my mother, and I hate hurting my family, and its hurting me inside. I have to tell them no sorry I can't go for your birthday go without me. I've already been to the bahamas so i'm not missing much, but still its my Mom. When I tell them this I know that they'll be very hurt. I'm going to end up crying tomorrow. I hate hurting anyones feelings especially my parents and or familys feelings. I have voiced my opinions with my brother for the past two days about it, and he turns around and says that I don't get it, and he can't talk to me about it. Its just because he doesn't want to hear what I have to say. I have been torn between my brother and my boyfriend trying to make everyone happy. I'm torn because I can't make my parents happy on this one. I'm torn because I can't make myself happy on this one. It will be my fault if this trip doesn't happen. I told my brother that my dad should use the money he would spend on all of us, and take her to Hawaii since I know she wants to go there, and it would make everything easier.
I hate hurting there feelings and I'm going to have to hurt them tomorrow.
I won't be sleeping tonight................