Re: Took me forever to write this...miludaMarch 9 2011, 07:50:01 UTC
I just don't see it as failure. I see it as another path to somewhere else. It's hard to call something a failure because that means it's the end... life's not over yet.
If I think I will succeed and I didn't make it, at least I tried. It's better than not trying, which is truly the end of that. Onward to something else after that.
I don't think of things as failures. I think of things as opportunities... and perspective changes a lot. Do you see yourself as a failure? How about the things you've done? I see things as mistakes. You learn from mistakes. If you don't, then it's just stupidity... you can learn from everything.
I think to improve oneself you have to focus on the right thing. Maybe what you've done so far is addressing the wrong issue?
It's not like I haven't been hurt by friends. I've been hurt, I've been lied to, bridges were burned, and some were rebuilt. In this life, people come and go... and nothing says you can't make new friends. I've had plenty of downs and I've had plenty of ups, and if I only focus on my downs, I don't think I would have gotten so many ups as I've had in my life so far. Focus is so important. If I'm going to spend all day crying about how something went wrong, nothing happens in that day except crying. Of course, it takes time to heal, but... if it's been a long time after it happened, maybe it's time to move on, stop the crying, and do something to change it.
People get along, people misunderstand, people solve things, people leave each other... all sorts of things happen with friends and family, but it doesn't mean that because bad things happened in the past that it'll happen again. If I think like that, I can only think that it'll definitely happen again and that's not the kind of life I want to live. I want to live a life where I can at least have some semblance of control, enough to give myself a stable, level-headed mindset to help me progress further, not backward.
When I was living during the most depressing time of my life, I put up with it thinking that it's really what was left. I thought I was stupid because she told me I was. I lived for her, and not for me. One morning, I woke up and the first thought was, "I don't want this anymore." And from than day on, something changed--I changed, and if things didn't change, I made the effort to try and change it...
What works for me may not work for everyone else, but I really do think perspective is important... I've been hurt so many times, I've been in mental situations that I think no person should ever be at, but if I were to live my life in fear of those things happening again, I'll never be able to climb trees anymore.
If I think I will succeed and I didn't make it, at least I tried. It's better than not trying, which is truly the end of that. Onward to something else after that.
I don't think of things as failures. I think of things as opportunities... and perspective changes a lot. Do you see yourself as a failure? How about the things you've done? I see things as mistakes. You learn from mistakes. If you don't, then it's just stupidity... you can learn from everything.
I think to improve oneself you have to focus on the right thing. Maybe what you've done so far is addressing the wrong issue?
It's not like I haven't been hurt by friends. I've been hurt, I've been lied to, bridges were burned, and some were rebuilt. In this life, people come and go... and nothing says you can't make new friends. I've had plenty of downs and I've had plenty of ups, and if I only focus on my downs, I don't think I would have gotten so many ups as I've had in my life so far. Focus is so important. If I'm going to spend all day crying about how something went wrong, nothing happens in that day except crying. Of course, it takes time to heal, but... if it's been a long time after it happened, maybe it's time to move on, stop the crying, and do something to change it.
People get along, people misunderstand, people solve things, people leave each other... all sorts of things happen with friends and family, but it doesn't mean that because bad things happened in the past that it'll happen again. If I think like that, I can only think that it'll definitely happen again and that's not the kind of life I want to live. I want to live a life where I can at least have some semblance of control, enough to give myself a stable, level-headed mindset to help me progress further, not backward.
When I was living during the most depressing time of my life, I put up with it thinking that it's really what was left. I thought I was stupid because she told me I was. I lived for her, and not for me. One morning, I woke up and the first thought was, "I don't want this anymore." And from than day on, something changed--I changed, and if things didn't change, I made the effort to try and change it...
What works for me may not work for everyone else, but I really do think perspective is important... I've been hurt so many times, I've been in mental situations that I think no person should ever be at, but if I were to live my life in fear of those things happening again, I'll never be able to climb trees anymore.
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