Medical question

[lillobo]

This might be OT, don't know, but I was wondering about tubals and the availability to get them in the military.  You see, I've been arguing with this asshat about the abortion debate in another community, and he said that women can always get a tubal; medical clinics in TN for instance, can offer this procedure to low income women.  Then they

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[lillobo]

Sorry, I had originally tagged this as medical, but it didn't show up.

[riseabove]

That's okay, tags only show up in communities if a moderator has added them, which is... odd. IMO. No worries.

[lillobo]

After I realized my mistake, I looked in the tags section, and realized there wasn't anything that said medical, so I found the tricare tag.

[riseabove]

yea. I tend to add tags frequently to our cache... but it usually takes a post about said tag to make it in.

[mausdriver]

Well, i don't know about the Tricare aspect, but i know that you don't have to have previously had children to get a tubal. I didn't. They do, however, usually make you wait until you're at least 35.

[lillobo]

35??!!? That's outrageous! Why is it that a man can get a vasectomy at 21, but a woman can't get a tubal at the same age??

[mausdriver]

Because, m'dear, they assume we women don't know our own minds.

[lillobo]

My, how 'thoughtful' of them...(heavy sarcasm).

[bugsdrugscandy]

i know my ex's sister was denied one because she'd only had two children- the place she went said you had to have three before they'd consider you.
so her husband had a vasectomy instead.

[bloodpara]

My neighbor (she's 24) at Ft. Stewart actually got one and it was paid by Tricare (she's got Prime). I believe she said she had to have 2 kids to get approved though (which she did) but I also know a woman who got approved with no kids (not military though, just a friend). I guess it depends on which doctor you go to and if it's a MTF or civilian hospital. You can always email Tricare. Try a few?

[bloodpara]

And just out of curiosity and you don't have to answer this question if you don't want to, but why do you think you are unable to conceive? I'm just asking because when I was 16 I was told by my doctor I couldn't either, and now I'm 9 months pregnant. So yea...

[lillobo]

It's kind of hard to put in words, but I guess I've just never been very fertile. I was on birth control years ago, but stopped taking it after awhile. And while I have had my share of relationships (don't want to sound like a Samantha Jones here :-D), and my boyfriend would use a condom, sometimes he didn't, and nothing ever happened. Now being with my SO, we don't use BC, and again--nothing. It's strange I know, but that's how I am.

[bloodpara]

Ah, that sound kinda like me haha! My doctor said that I don't ovulate like I should and my husband and I haven't used BC for 2 years (and we're worse than bunnies if you know what I mean) and nothing happened so I thought the doc was right and I couldn't have kids at all. Then one day out of nowhere - BAM. Pregnant. We've super happy because we really did want this, but you being childfree I don't think you'll have the same reaction. I'm just throwing it out there that you should still be careful because anything can happen. Even a tubal has a 5 year past due failure rate so if you have a uterus - there's a chance you can get pregnant. Lucky for me - but I can't say the same for others.

What sucks now is that I have to get on BC haha! It was a good two years though. Hurray for depo.

[riseabove]

You may have a better chance with the "I can't have them anyway, but just in case" argument. I've known women who've been able to have full hysterectomies before the age of 30, who are childless... that's kind of the argument used there.

Only one way to find out, right? Ask. Sorry I don't have a better answer!