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My friend proposed to his girlfriend last night. They've been dating 15 months, and hardly seem to enjoy eachother's company. How the hell? Makes my brain hurt. And makes me realize that the people I'm around here aren't anything like me. I exist on an entire different plane of reality. The thought of marrying someone you've never lived with, never spent holidays with, never gotten intimate with (sex is up to the individual, I can see someone else waiting for marriage on that one). But damn, so much growth happens in those steps, I'm fortunate enough to have found someone who grew with me, but what about people who discover differences and incompatibilities? Religion makes you wait and religion forces you to stay in if it doesn't work
I'm lucky. I really am. People here are putting some external judgements on me and my relationship even more now, and I realize that, I don't have to make them understand. "you're pretty much married.....why aren't you?" Um, because we don't want to yet. Life does not revolve around the church for some people, atheists especially :P. Apparently it's ridiculous to have dated for over a year and not be engaged *gasp* I think it's impossible to date that long and not have sex, so they resort to marriege *hehe*
I'm also really lucky to have my friends in California, and a couple key friends here. I'll be graduated soon (yes, graduating without being married, *gasp*) and get to go back to living with Scott, enjoying my life without hiding things. I'll miss a couple people and miss taking classes, but overall I'm completely excited. Four months of hearing bible thumpers, I can do this!
I'm lucky. I really am. People here are putting some external judgements on me and my relationship even more now, and I realize that, I don't have to make them understand. "you're pretty much married.....why aren't you?" Um, because we don't want to yet. Life does not revolve around the church for some people, atheists especially :P. Apparently it's ridiculous to have dated for over a year and not be engaged *gasp* I think it's impossible to date that long and not have sex, so they resort to marriege *hehe*
I'm also really lucky to have my friends in California, and a couple key friends here. I'll be graduated soon (yes, graduating without being married, *gasp*) and get to go back to living with Scott, enjoying my life without hiding things. I'll miss a couple people and miss taking classes, but overall I'm completely excited. Four months of hearing bible thumpers, I can do this!