First off, I have been known to have the problem of acting upon emotion. I'll begin this with saying that I am sorry for the label of whore. I have also struggled with admitting that I am wrong, so that took alot right there.
However, I have to ask several things. What's the point in getting married if you already spend your lives together, wake up together, and yes, have sex. At that point the only thing marriage is good for is a label.
Secondly, I will tell you the same thing I told mitch. I don't plan to stab at people. I don't mean to be mean. (was I? yes, and I'm sorry.)
Let's start with his grandmother. I have a habit of becoming attached to the family of my friends. So, when she called me crying, I did take offense to the reason for her pain. Would she be hurt if mitch had moved out on his own? Sure, but not as bad as knowing that he blew her off, and gave in to everything that she has tried to say is wrong.
Again, there are two sides to everything. I agree that she hasn't been the most successful guardian when it came to overcoming the urge to spoil. I not sure, but I can guess that she's still paying for some of mitch's expenses. Also, if I recall, she is a "member" of a church that she hasn't seen the inside of in over five years (probably longer). Still, she's an old woman, and speaking stereotypically, there's nothing that I could tell her that she would believe about that.
Again, I've seen more trouble in the ranks, do you think that engagement is all that is needed for acceptable pillow play? Again, I can't totally call that your fault, seeing as how your mother doesn't seem to care. Also, I don't want that to be taken as an insult to your mother. She is a mother, more than I can ever say of myself.
I can believe that mitch has helped you. Sometimes people just need a companion. You meantioned Courtney, and although that was a way of trying to bring the subject home to me, I thank you for that. Seeing as how you've been told about her, I'll tell you more.
She was like you. I really don't want to say too much because I don't have her permission to go flaunting her past around, but to say the least, depression ruled her mind, and choked her heart. I've made it a daily point to make her smile. Still, that was easily done without sex. As a matter of fact, I called mitch and joyfully anounced our first kiss: after we had dated for nearly a year! Trust me, it's possible, and she is worth it.
I can believe you're hurt. That doesn't suprise me. In the spur of the moment I was after a little vengeance. Again that was wrong, and I apologise. However, I haven't felt much better about the situation. The titles that I gave were my way of striking back. As I said, I've often veiwed Mitch as a little brother. In doing so I have bossed him like a little brother, faught with him like a little brother, but most of all, loved him like a brother. When Mary told me that he was getting engaged, I nearly had a heart attack. What can I say, that was enough, and I decided that I would sit back and watch. Then he told me about your arrangements for campmeeting. That's what really hurt.
One summer before he told me at that same camp that it was over; that he would be pure from that point on. I guess it was a matter of circumstance that it hurt me so badly. The one time that I made a commitment and actually kept it, he tried to sneak his failure by me.
Should you argue that it isn't wrong, I suggest that you convince him of that first. That's why he tried his best to keep me from knowing. Later, when I confronted him about it, he not only admitted to it, but he told me he knew it was wrong.
Now I don't know, perhaps he's brainwashed himself again since then. Most likely.
Either way, I would rather just forget it all and leave him to his own devices until he truly needs something. I have little more to speak of, and the very subject depresses me.
However, I have to ask several things. What's the point in getting married if you already spend your lives together, wake up together, and yes, have sex. At that point the only thing marriage is good for is a label.
Secondly, I will tell you the same thing I told mitch. I don't plan to stab at people. I don't mean to be mean. (was I? yes, and I'm sorry.)
Let's start with his grandmother. I have a habit of becoming attached to the family of my friends. So, when she called me crying, I did take offense to the reason for her pain. Would she be hurt if mitch had moved out on his own? Sure, but not as bad as knowing that he blew her off, and gave in to everything that she has tried to say is wrong.
Again, there are two sides to everything. I agree that she hasn't been the most successful guardian when it came to overcoming the urge to spoil. I not sure, but I can guess that she's still paying for some of mitch's expenses. Also, if I recall, she is a "member" of a church that she hasn't seen the inside of in over five years (probably longer). Still, she's an old woman, and speaking stereotypically, there's nothing that I could tell her that she would believe about that.
Again, I've seen more trouble in the ranks, do you think that engagement is all that is needed for acceptable pillow play? Again, I can't totally call that your fault, seeing as how your mother doesn't seem to care. Also, I don't want that to be taken as an insult to your mother. She is a mother, more than I can ever say of myself.
I can believe that mitch has helped you. Sometimes people just need a companion. You meantioned Courtney, and although that was a way of trying to bring the subject home to me, I thank you for that. Seeing as how you've been told about her, I'll tell you more.
She was like you. I really don't want to say too much because I don't have her permission to go flaunting her past around, but to say the least, depression ruled her mind, and choked her heart. I've made it a daily point to make her smile. Still, that was easily done without sex. As a matter of fact, I called mitch and joyfully anounced our first kiss: after we had dated for nearly a year! Trust me, it's possible, and she is worth it.
I can believe you're hurt. That doesn't suprise me. In the spur of the moment I was after a little vengeance. Again that was wrong, and I apologise. However, I haven't felt much better about the situation. The titles that I gave were my way of striking back. As I said, I've often veiwed Mitch as a little brother. In doing so I have bossed him like a little brother, faught with him like a little brother, but most of all, loved him like a brother. When Mary told me that he was getting engaged, I nearly had a heart attack. What can I say, that was enough, and I decided that I would sit back and watch. Then he told me about your arrangements for campmeeting. That's what really hurt.
One summer before he told me at that same camp that it was over; that he would be pure from that point on. I guess it was a matter of circumstance that it hurt me so badly. The one time that I made a commitment and actually kept it, he tried to sneak his failure by me.
Should you argue that it isn't wrong, I suggest that you convince him of that first. That's why he tried his best to keep me from knowing. Later, when I confronted him about it, he not only admitted to it, but he told me he knew it was wrong.
Now I don't know, perhaps he's brainwashed himself again since then. Most likely.
Either way, I would rather just forget it all and leave him to his own devices until he truly needs something. I have little more to speak of, and the very subject depresses me.
Eat, drink, and be merry.
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I just read my origional post, my reference to "the whore of babylon" was a Biblical phase used to refer to sexual sin.
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