Just for the Record
1. She isnt trying to force me into anything. I knew before going into this that she had a kid and if i wanted to be with her i was going to have to accept the fact that i would take the role of the father. I dont mind that He calls me dad, it actually makes me feel really good about myself that ive made such an impact on his life that he would even consider calling me that. She never forced it onto him, i never forced it onto him. Even my father doesnt have a problem with it, even today he told the boy to "go to his father." So id appreciate it if people would stop making me look like some kind of victim
2. The name change thing was actually my idea to begin with for the simple fact that i dont want him to grow u feeling like the oddball kid out. You talk about "Regardless the kid should know about his real father." Fact is, he does. But another fact is, I dont want him to grow up and feel like he isnt part of the family. What happens if me and Ana get married, have another kid? I dont want this one to feel awkward and odd when his name is different than the rest of his fuckin family. Makes sense...i think so.
3.Who is anybody to say how we feel about each other. Just because alot of people out there have had fucked up relationships. Or alot of people' relationships out there havnt lasted, Does not mean ours wont. Im really happy with her. And ive made my decision, And im gonna do what makes me happy, and if it means marrying her, than i guess thats what im gonna do. Because i Kno we can last and i wont do anything to fuck it up and neither will her.
4. True, the way she yells at him sometimes is wrong. But just because you see one thing does not reflect how it is all the time. She has really just started raising him on her own About 6 months ago. She is still getting used to raising a son, she is looking into parenting classes she is trying her best to be the best mother she can to him. Shes given up alot to be a mother to him. Shes given up the little party lifestyle she used to have.
5.Since ive came into the picture. Him and his mother have "calmed down" per say. He listens to me, he listens to his mother better than what he used to. He starting to realize whats right and whats wrong. And im proud of that. And im sorry for cussing around jeremy, but if its going to be a get together for 18/19/20 year olds, then you should have realized before ya go there that it wouldnt be rated G.
6.As far as the "hitting him for something she told him to do. She was being sarcastic. George was the one who originally told him to a tree. And she just repeated what he said with as "yea" at the beginning. And we all know kids dont know what sarcasm is. So she busted his ass, nothng more to it. And he didnt just get his ass busted, he also got punsihed for it, but when he was told to go sit on the bench, maria was the one who told him to get up and go play.
I personally dont see the problem with busting the kids ass, cus thats sumthing hes been needing that was never really done to him. And honestly would of helped out my brother brian cus he was Just like this particular child when he was 3.
Im sorry if im coming off as an asshole. But honestly, ever since ive been with this girl ive had to defend her because people judge her on how she WAS. Everyone expects that this isnt gonna last, and im not goin to let that effect me. Honestly, If you was trying to do your best to be a mother to your child, But all you hear is how bad of a mother you are...wouldnt that frustrate you? I really just wish that everyone would get off our backs about things, cus if its not one thing, its something else.
Im drained if i got anything else to say...ill say it later...
PS:?I love jeremy to death am, dont take this as an attack or anything towards you, i just wanted to say how i felt about all this, trust me, it isnt just you.
2. The name change thing was actually my idea to begin with for the simple fact that i dont want him to grow u feeling like the oddball kid out. You talk about "Regardless the kid should know about his real father." Fact is, he does. But another fact is, I dont want him to grow up and feel like he isnt part of the family. What happens if me and Ana get married, have another kid? I dont want this one to feel awkward and odd when his name is different than the rest of his fuckin family. Makes sense...i think so.
3.Who is anybody to say how we feel about each other. Just because alot of people out there have had fucked up relationships. Or alot of people' relationships out there havnt lasted, Does not mean ours wont. Im really happy with her. And ive made my decision, And im gonna do what makes me happy, and if it means marrying her, than i guess thats what im gonna do. Because i Kno we can last and i wont do anything to fuck it up and neither will her.
4. True, the way she yells at him sometimes is wrong. But just because you see one thing does not reflect how it is all the time. She has really just started raising him on her own About 6 months ago. She is still getting used to raising a son, she is looking into parenting classes she is trying her best to be the best mother she can to him. Shes given up alot to be a mother to him. Shes given up the little party lifestyle she used to have.
5.Since ive came into the picture. Him and his mother have "calmed down" per say. He listens to me, he listens to his mother better than what he used to. He starting to realize whats right and whats wrong. And im proud of that. And im sorry for cussing around jeremy, but if its going to be a get together for 18/19/20 year olds, then you should have realized before ya go there that it wouldnt be rated G.
6.As far as the "hitting him for something she told him to do. She was being sarcastic. George was the one who originally told him to a tree. And she just repeated what he said with as "yea" at the beginning. And we all know kids dont know what sarcasm is. So she busted his ass, nothng more to it. And he didnt just get his ass busted, he also got punsihed for it, but when he was told to go sit on the bench, maria was the one who told him to get up and go play.
I personally dont see the problem with busting the kids ass, cus thats sumthing hes been needing that was never really done to him. And honestly would of helped out my brother brian cus he was Just like this particular child when he was 3.
Im sorry if im coming off as an asshole. But honestly, ever since ive been with this girl ive had to defend her because people judge her on how she WAS. Everyone expects that this isnt gonna last, and im not goin to let that effect me. Honestly, If you was trying to do your best to be a mother to your child, But all you hear is how bad of a mother you are...wouldnt that frustrate you? I really just wish that everyone would get off our backs about things, cus if its not one thing, its something else.
Im drained if i got anything else to say...ill say it later...
PS:?I love jeremy to death am, dont take this as an attack or anything towards you, i just wanted to say how i felt about all this, trust me, it isnt just you.