Trust that I never date UGLY people...

Aug 03, 2005 21:34




Trust that I never date UGLY people…

Pictures are amazing! They have the uncanny ability to reveal a thousands words…about your looks. Pictures, mirrors, sunglasses, all reflect our images, even people. We are judging everyone, from the product in their hair, down to their Alfani shoes. Anyone who tells you that personality matters in a world of Gucci and hot bodies is lying…or do we tell ourselves that to explain why we are dating who we are dating? Do the rules of surrounding yourself with “ugly” people, even “ugly” friends, to make you feel better about yourself, also apply to your “love” life? Is dating someone “ugly” some sort of charity case we undergo for a few weeks to prove to the ones judging us, that we are not as shallow as we want to believe?

I meet new people every day in my job. And it would be dishonest of me to say that I don’t judge them immediately based on what they look like and what they are wearing, even how they pull it off. But can anyone escape that wall? I don’t think so…We are too in touch with our shallowness. Which is why one takes the extra half hour necessary to out-dress their date, and we all do it because we always want to one up our dates. We sit through awkward first dates wondering what our dates are thinking. Did they just check someone out? Will this lead to nothing if I can’t keep their attention for more the a few seconds? Do I have something in my teeth? Are they better looking then me? Am I there charity case?

What if you are the “ugly” one?

Someone will always be taller, smarter, “stylish-er”, but when will we realize that they won’t compare to ourselves, there will never be someone who is Mario-er. In this world where we have to show off how hot our significant others are, why can’t we show how amazing we are? It seems that if you are not attached, you are the “ugly” one.

Ugly must be in the eye of the beholder, cause beauty seems to be in the hands of the Vogue, Vanity Fair, GQ, etc. We always try to define such terms as “ugly” and “beauty” in a class with 30 to 500 students, but is it really that hard? The terms almost seem so simple and visually almost universal, so is an explanation necessary? No…the simple answer, which there never seems to be one anyway, is no. Asking a room full of different people, all with different interests, different life experiences, what there take on beauty will get no where. What do you think? Don’t tell me, I am not the one that looks back at you in the mirror. I am not the person you see out of the corner of your eye when you catch yourself in a storefront window. I am not the person you wake up with everyday. It is not so much how do our dates measure up in the looks department. It’s more about who do we want other’s to experience? Who are we going to put out there?

I guess this does not answer any questions. Today I wanted to write something that may haunt you till the end of this page or your entire lives. Trust that I never date UGLY people...because who’s to say who is UGLY and who is not, not me…beauty lies in my experiences and those who I love, and occasionally beauty is just the cherry in my Cosmo.
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