welcome to the first official decade of your adult life
I would've wrote this entry sooner but school is keeping me busy, as you all can see by my lack of entries.
I turned 20 years old on sunday. When I was 15 or so I had planned on being married at this age, have kids at 22, 24 and 26 and possibly 28. Those plans are completely skewed now. I wont even be getting out of school until I'm 26! It only goes downhill from there...
Leading up to it I was excited-I was going to be entering the next decade of my life! I was fairly excited sunday morning as well, but as always, something ruins my birthday every year. Since I live in the dorms during the week and go home on the weekend, on friday I ran into the guy who was driving 3 people from the dorms to my birthday party. His girlfriend (who was also going to the party) had recently had her appendix taken out so I assumed they were not going to show up, but he insisted that they will be there which meant that the other 2 people he was supposed to drive would be there as well. I told everyone (small note:there are four different poeple being talked about-the guy, his girlfriend, the girl, the other girl) that we were to meet at River Rink(an ice skating rink) at noon. Sunday morning at 11am I call the dorm room and nobody picks up the phone so I assumed that they already left. I also called another couple and they were already on their way. Around 11:40am as we are on the road I get a call from oneof the girls the guy was supposed to give a ride to. She says that her and the other girl didn't know what time to be there, the guy was nowhere to be found and his girlfriend was sleeping. That pissed me off right away. I told her to call me as soon as she found him. I get a call closer to noon from the same girl and she says that the girlfriend doesn't want to go so the guy wont go. I got even madder. First of all, I explicitly told everyone the time and place and I asked the guy 3 times if he was sure he would make it (since other people were depending on him.) I told her I would call before getting on the ice and see if she would be able to make it there in time. She said that her and the other girl were going to try to take public transport but they wouldn't make it to the skating, only to the restaurant. Fine. Whatever.
If the guy would have told me ahead of time that he couldn't make it, then it would have been perfectly fine and understandable. But to do this last minute was just plain rude. I don't think it was fair to do that to me on my birthday. It wasn't like his girlfriend was in pain or was having trouble getting out of bed, she just decided she didn't want to go! So I called the girl before hitting the ice and she said that they were going to try to get to the restaurant, so I told her I would call when we got done skating so they could meet us there. I called and everything was fine, it was going to be just her and the other girl, the guy and his girlfriend weren't going to go. We reserved two tables that would fit 7 people because it was 30-45min wait for a single table to fit all of us and my parents and I had to be at another restaurant (which was about an hour away) for my family party by 4:30pm so we couldn't wait(it was about 1:30ish at that point.) We were about to order when the girl calls and says that the guy and his girlfriend decided to go so they would drive everyone and it would take them a half hour to get there. What the hell?!? We didn't have enough room for them at the table, first of all, because they said they weren't going. Then my parents and I were on a tight schedule and now we had to wait for them to get there, order, get their food, and eat! So because of them my dad had to call the other restaurant and push that back an hour and call all of the relatives that were supposed to be there. It was incredibly inconsiderate of them to do that to me. It pissed me off so badly. It was my fucking birthday! How dare they do that to me. It's not like they told me they couldn't make it because of her appendix on friday (which I totally would have understood because I assumed she wouldn't be able to go after she got it taken out) but the guy told me that they were definately going to be there. And they didn't have any real reason for cancelling last minute then deciding they wanted to go.
The other thing was that my parents were paying for everything (it ended up costing us about $140 for the restaurant, plus $30 for the ice skating.) Now, I am not saying this because I expect a present from everyone just because it's my birthday, but none of the people who showed up late(that group of four who fucked up my entire birthday) brought a present. I was always taught that if you go to a birthday party where everything is payed for you bring a present! But NONE of them gave me anything. I am not trying to sound greedy but that was not right. It's not like we spent time together or enjoyed anything because when they got there me and the people who were already there had finished eating and we went to play arcades(it's a restaurant with an arcade built-in the back) then my parents and I had to leave shortly after. It upset me how completely inconsiderate they were about the whole thing. First saying they were going to show up then deciding last minute they weren't going, then only two of them going then having all show up at the last minute and ruin our plans for the entire day then not even bring a present when everything was payed for! I am not saying I was expecting a ton of stuff. Like the other couple that showed up gave me a small present and it didn't matter because it was the thought that counts and I know they are very low on cash. I appreciated the gesture. What bothered me about the four that came late was they gave me absolutely nothing, weren't appreciative and were completely inconsiderate. It put me in such a bad mood that I felt sorry for the other people who had to put up with me afterwards.
I completely view them differently now. I don't go out of my way to help them if they need it (like I did before, whenever they needed anything I was always willing to help with anything) and I try not to hang out with them a lot. I don't think I am being harsh, but what they did was inconsiderate and unfair to me and my parents. Do you think I was wrong in what I thought? Was I being too harsh?
I turned 20 years old on sunday. When I was 15 or so I had planned on being married at this age, have kids at 22, 24 and 26 and possibly 28. Those plans are completely skewed now. I wont even be getting out of school until I'm 26! It only goes downhill from there...
Leading up to it I was excited-I was going to be entering the next decade of my life! I was fairly excited sunday morning as well, but as always, something ruins my birthday every year. Since I live in the dorms during the week and go home on the weekend, on friday I ran into the guy who was driving 3 people from the dorms to my birthday party. His girlfriend (who was also going to the party) had recently had her appendix taken out so I assumed they were not going to show up, but he insisted that they will be there which meant that the other 2 people he was supposed to drive would be there as well. I told everyone (small note:there are four different poeple being talked about-the guy, his girlfriend, the girl, the other girl) that we were to meet at River Rink(an ice skating rink) at noon. Sunday morning at 11am I call the dorm room and nobody picks up the phone so I assumed that they already left. I also called another couple and they were already on their way. Around 11:40am as we are on the road I get a call from oneof the girls the guy was supposed to give a ride to. She says that her and the other girl didn't know what time to be there, the guy was nowhere to be found and his girlfriend was sleeping. That pissed me off right away. I told her to call me as soon as she found him. I get a call closer to noon from the same girl and she says that the girlfriend doesn't want to go so the guy wont go. I got even madder. First of all, I explicitly told everyone the time and place and I asked the guy 3 times if he was sure he would make it (since other people were depending on him.) I told her I would call before getting on the ice and see if she would be able to make it there in time. She said that her and the other girl were going to try to take public transport but they wouldn't make it to the skating, only to the restaurant. Fine. Whatever.
If the guy would have told me ahead of time that he couldn't make it, then it would have been perfectly fine and understandable. But to do this last minute was just plain rude. I don't think it was fair to do that to me on my birthday. It wasn't like his girlfriend was in pain or was having trouble getting out of bed, she just decided she didn't want to go! So I called the girl before hitting the ice and she said that they were going to try to get to the restaurant, so I told her I would call when we got done skating so they could meet us there. I called and everything was fine, it was going to be just her and the other girl, the guy and his girlfriend weren't going to go. We reserved two tables that would fit 7 people because it was 30-45min wait for a single table to fit all of us and my parents and I had to be at another restaurant (which was about an hour away) for my family party by 4:30pm so we couldn't wait(it was about 1:30ish at that point.) We were about to order when the girl calls and says that the guy and his girlfriend decided to go so they would drive everyone and it would take them a half hour to get there. What the hell?!? We didn't have enough room for them at the table, first of all, because they said they weren't going. Then my parents and I were on a tight schedule and now we had to wait for them to get there, order, get their food, and eat! So because of them my dad had to call the other restaurant and push that back an hour and call all of the relatives that were supposed to be there. It was incredibly inconsiderate of them to do that to me. It pissed me off so badly. It was my fucking birthday! How dare they do that to me. It's not like they told me they couldn't make it because of her appendix on friday (which I totally would have understood because I assumed she wouldn't be able to go after she got it taken out) but the guy told me that they were definately going to be there. And they didn't have any real reason for cancelling last minute then deciding they wanted to go.
The other thing was that my parents were paying for everything (it ended up costing us about $140 for the restaurant, plus $30 for the ice skating.) Now, I am not saying this because I expect a present from everyone just because it's my birthday, but none of the people who showed up late(that group of four who fucked up my entire birthday) brought a present. I was always taught that if you go to a birthday party where everything is payed for you bring a present! But NONE of them gave me anything. I am not trying to sound greedy but that was not right. It's not like we spent time together or enjoyed anything because when they got there me and the people who were already there had finished eating and we went to play arcades(it's a restaurant with an arcade built-in the back) then my parents and I had to leave shortly after. It upset me how completely inconsiderate they were about the whole thing. First saying they were going to show up then deciding last minute they weren't going, then only two of them going then having all show up at the last minute and ruin our plans for the entire day then not even bring a present when everything was payed for! I am not saying I was expecting a ton of stuff. Like the other couple that showed up gave me a small present and it didn't matter because it was the thought that counts and I know they are very low on cash. I appreciated the gesture. What bothered me about the four that came late was they gave me absolutely nothing, weren't appreciative and were completely inconsiderate. It put me in such a bad mood that I felt sorry for the other people who had to put up with me afterwards.
I completely view them differently now. I don't go out of my way to help them if they need it (like I did before, whenever they needed anything I was always willing to help with anything) and I try not to hang out with them a lot. I don't think I am being harsh, but what they did was inconsiderate and unfair to me and my parents. Do you think I was wrong in what I thought? Was I being too harsh?