A rant I NEED you to listen to please

[mersey_girl]

Right, I've had enough. I have come to the final conclusion that social situations and myself DO NOT go together. I have also decided that, as we all have a book inside of us, I have mine. It's a little autobiographical, but it's about a girl who starts to go insane as she becomes paranoid that she does not belong anywhere and that people try to

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[potterwitch]

I found it very hard to make friends at my work too. Perhaps you're just one those people--like me--who separates social and work spheres? In that case, you really need to find some way of putting yourself in a situation where people go for a social reason--a society or club of some kind, and preferably one where you get divided into teams, like a sports club, or groups, like a drama society, so you have to interact and work together. Have you managed to look and see if there are any listings in the library, or anything?

If you're still worried about approaching people, why not go see a counsellor or GP and say you're concerned you have social anxiety, and ask if they can put you in touch with any help groups dealing with that; then you'll be able to meet people and not feel like you're imposing, because all those people are just desperate for someone to talk to them so they don't have to make the first move. And you'll make some friends there; you're a lovely person, which is proof that people who have trouble in social situations are still worth being friends with :^) Try making up a list of different things you could do to meet people, and actively pursue every option on the list; don't go online, have a quick google and then give up. Go out and ask at youth centres, leisure centres, the YM/WCA, etc; you need to break the cycle of thinking there's nothing you can do, and physically looking will help, and you might come across something you hadn't thought of.

Try thinking of a few things you'd like to do, make a list of where you could do them or what kind of organisations would offer them, and feel free to call me and we can chat about how you can go about finding the right place for you to make some more friends :^)