a whole life, so lonely, and then you come and ease the pain.
Sort of missed this place haha >< shall post a rare one.
think i'll probably add you soon yapi, novelty of anonymous blog is wearing off :D
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you know like sometimes there are people who are so closed up and introverted, they just don't want to let you in their worlds and end up shutting everyone else out. they just get uncontactable, refusing to answer calls, reply to anything. this in turn confuses other people ("why is she doing this to me? is it something i did? am i that detestable? what happened?") and only those who get to interact with them daily/understand them will forgive them. but even though this is inherently their character, even though they need space and time by themselves and they don't like their private space invaded by others, it still -- doesn't give them the right to do so. they don't mean to hurt others, but they end up doing so anyway, because others just can't understand why they're doing this to them. and it also ends up destroying relationships. maybe, it's better to explain, and also not to give preferential treatment -- if you want to shut others out, just shut everyone and not just some people.
then there are those who seem really open, really friendly and happy, but then these are the ones who hide everything inside. it's harder if you think about it -- while people like those above just make it obvious they have something bothering them, these people have to smile, and keep everything inside. and why do they do so? it's cause they don't want to vent feelings upon others who aren't relevant to whatever's bothering them, or it could be because they just can't put whatever's bothering them into words, or maybe they're just as closed up as those above and don't think people will understand. so they maintain a public face, and a private self. this may lead to misconceptions from others too -- "she's superficial!" cause they seem happy a lot of the time, and happiness for some reason seems superficial as compared to depression; "she's hypocritical" even though both selves are the same person -- the inner self doesn't make the person any more real than the outer one she presents to others. sometimes, what they fail to realize is that perhaps, people whom they think are superficial might have depths they choose to hide from others.
and there are people who don't know how to deal with conflicts; they prefer to let everything blow over, hide them under the carpet, but this ends up doing damage to all parties instead. but it isn't entirely their fault; they just don't know how to treat the other parties, how to tell them what is up. there are so many things that can end up hurting people because of unseen reasons, and many times they just remain unspoken and unresolved. some people just like to stick with the status quo, wanting to believe the illusion they spun for themselves, wanting everything to just go back as it was last time.
some people's instinctive reaction to hurt is anger -- anger at the person who hurt them. after all, it's better to blame the other person than start questioning yourself, wondering where you went wrong, thinking perhaps you just aren't good enough. anger is a defence, the first defence that comes up when hurt invades, but eventually hurt barges through the wall and ends up attacking harder.
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sometimes, when you're pissed at some people perhaps for some insensitive remark they made, maybe you should calm down and think about why they said it instead of fuming about why it's unfair to you. sometimes they don't intend for it to be mean, don't intend to hurt you or insult you or anything; it was just something instinctive, slipped out. subjectivity is good when it comes to empathizing, but objectivity must be present in conflict resolving.
bitching doesn't serve any purpose; it only serves to continue making you mad and strains ties as well. it creates tensions and people stuck in between might just have to take sides. maybe it's better to ask the person about it, or just put the remark out of your mind.
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you realize that karma doesn't actually exist; people who don't deserve what they are getting still are getting whatever they are getting, and this applies to both positive and negative things. we sympathise with the innocents, the victims, cause they had no control over what happened to them, don't deserve whatever happened to them; and we hate the baddies cause they are the ones manipulating and controlling the entire situation. they had the power to twist things. and perhaps, we realize that they don't get what they deserve at the end too -- just getting away scot free. the world is inherently unfair, but isn't there any way to make it fairer?
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there are songs like eternal flame ("close your eyes, give me your hand darling. do you feel my heart beating? do you understand? do you feel the same? am i only dreaming?") which are super sweet but sometimes when they catch you off guard, you realize they create this ache instead. yet you can't help but keep listening to it, over and over again.
think i'll probably add you soon yapi, novelty of anonymous blog is wearing off :D
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you know like sometimes there are people who are so closed up and introverted, they just don't want to let you in their worlds and end up shutting everyone else out. they just get uncontactable, refusing to answer calls, reply to anything. this in turn confuses other people ("why is she doing this to me? is it something i did? am i that detestable? what happened?") and only those who get to interact with them daily/understand them will forgive them. but even though this is inherently their character, even though they need space and time by themselves and they don't like their private space invaded by others, it still -- doesn't give them the right to do so. they don't mean to hurt others, but they end up doing so anyway, because others just can't understand why they're doing this to them. and it also ends up destroying relationships. maybe, it's better to explain, and also not to give preferential treatment -- if you want to shut others out, just shut everyone and not just some people.
then there are those who seem really open, really friendly and happy, but then these are the ones who hide everything inside. it's harder if you think about it -- while people like those above just make it obvious they have something bothering them, these people have to smile, and keep everything inside. and why do they do so? it's cause they don't want to vent feelings upon others who aren't relevant to whatever's bothering them, or it could be because they just can't put whatever's bothering them into words, or maybe they're just as closed up as those above and don't think people will understand. so they maintain a public face, and a private self. this may lead to misconceptions from others too -- "she's superficial!" cause they seem happy a lot of the time, and happiness for some reason seems superficial as compared to depression; "she's hypocritical" even though both selves are the same person -- the inner self doesn't make the person any more real than the outer one she presents to others. sometimes, what they fail to realize is that perhaps, people whom they think are superficial might have depths they choose to hide from others.
and there are people who don't know how to deal with conflicts; they prefer to let everything blow over, hide them under the carpet, but this ends up doing damage to all parties instead. but it isn't entirely their fault; they just don't know how to treat the other parties, how to tell them what is up. there are so many things that can end up hurting people because of unseen reasons, and many times they just remain unspoken and unresolved. some people just like to stick with the status quo, wanting to believe the illusion they spun for themselves, wanting everything to just go back as it was last time.
some people's instinctive reaction to hurt is anger -- anger at the person who hurt them. after all, it's better to blame the other person than start questioning yourself, wondering where you went wrong, thinking perhaps you just aren't good enough. anger is a defence, the first defence that comes up when hurt invades, but eventually hurt barges through the wall and ends up attacking harder.
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sometimes, when you're pissed at some people perhaps for some insensitive remark they made, maybe you should calm down and think about why they said it instead of fuming about why it's unfair to you. sometimes they don't intend for it to be mean, don't intend to hurt you or insult you or anything; it was just something instinctive, slipped out. subjectivity is good when it comes to empathizing, but objectivity must be present in conflict resolving.
bitching doesn't serve any purpose; it only serves to continue making you mad and strains ties as well. it creates tensions and people stuck in between might just have to take sides. maybe it's better to ask the person about it, or just put the remark out of your mind.
---
you realize that karma doesn't actually exist; people who don't deserve what they are getting still are getting whatever they are getting, and this applies to both positive and negative things. we sympathise with the innocents, the victims, cause they had no control over what happened to them, don't deserve whatever happened to them; and we hate the baddies cause they are the ones manipulating and controlling the entire situation. they had the power to twist things. and perhaps, we realize that they don't get what they deserve at the end too -- just getting away scot free. the world is inherently unfair, but isn't there any way to make it fairer?
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there are songs like eternal flame ("close your eyes, give me your hand darling. do you feel my heart beating? do you understand? do you feel the same? am i only dreaming?") which are super sweet but sometimes when they catch you off guard, you realize they create this ache instead. yet you can't help but keep listening to it, over and over again.