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I wish I knew why people were stupid. If people are friends for a long time, if people get close real fast and share each other's secrets, then one would think that those same people would be comfortable enough to confront each other when one does something to piss the other off. I mean, at least that would be the mature thing to do. The other route would be to ignore and give the cold shoulder and leave the other person in the dust, wondering where the hell he or she went wrong. Why do people do this? Why does the ignored party always have to be the one to be like "Hey why are you ignoring me?" Why does the ignored party always have to feel like an asshole when saying said statement?
You see someone that you're not too pleased with on the T, someone that--last semester--would be quoted to be your best friend. Or at least one of your best friends. This semester, you barely wave to the person when you're walking down Comm Ave on your way to class. So you see said offender on the T and you make eye contact. Do you say hi? Do you turn and give them the cold shoulder? Do you immediately flip open your cell phone and pretend to be texting someone--even though you're clearly watching said person walking down the aisle of the T. The logical and mature thing to do would be to say hi and suck it up, making a mental note to talk to said offender later on about what he or she did exactly to offend you or piss you off.
But what really happens is people pretend to be completely abosrped in activities they are not really concerned with and then later, they go back to their friends with, "Yeah I was on the T and she totally ignored me. What a fucking bitch." when in reality, it was them who started it in the first place.
Now this is not to say that the offender is not completely at fault because, let's face it, unless someone is completely inhuman and irrational, the offending party did something. It could be a minor offense or a really major one, but nevertheless, the offending party did something to offend. Herein lies the problem.
The offending party knows that he or she did something to offend, this much is clear. But said party is completely in the dark and left to guess what it is that he or she did. That is what I find ridiculous. So, the offender already made an ass out of him or herself when he or she offended, not to mention the awkward, non-reciprocated wave on the T, but now, said party has to go and approach the angered and say, "Hey so...why are you ignoring me?"
And that is just an awkward question. It shouldn't have to be asked. It should be the other way around. It should be, "I'm mad at you because.." but it's not. It's not because the offending party knows that, though he or she may be mad, the offended is probably madder because the offended is the one doing the ignoring anyways.
So why can't people just say, "Hey guess what? You really pissed me off and this is why. Now change or we just won't speak." or something nicer than that. To some extent anyway because being too nice often diminishes or simplifies the problem and you don't want that. That just leads to bigger problems later on.
But guess what? These problems would be avoided if people just talked to each other. What's wrong with talking? Why are people afraid of it? They talk enough shit about other people. It's clear that talking is an ability that humans all have. People are just stupid. And really, when anyone figures it out, please tell me.
On another note, I really miss Mest. Here's another video:
You see someone that you're not too pleased with on the T, someone that--last semester--would be quoted to be your best friend. Or at least one of your best friends. This semester, you barely wave to the person when you're walking down Comm Ave on your way to class. So you see said offender on the T and you make eye contact. Do you say hi? Do you turn and give them the cold shoulder? Do you immediately flip open your cell phone and pretend to be texting someone--even though you're clearly watching said person walking down the aisle of the T. The logical and mature thing to do would be to say hi and suck it up, making a mental note to talk to said offender later on about what he or she did exactly to offend you or piss you off.
But what really happens is people pretend to be completely abosrped in activities they are not really concerned with and then later, they go back to their friends with, "Yeah I was on the T and she totally ignored me. What a fucking bitch." when in reality, it was them who started it in the first place.
Now this is not to say that the offender is not completely at fault because, let's face it, unless someone is completely inhuman and irrational, the offending party did something. It could be a minor offense or a really major one, but nevertheless, the offending party did something to offend. Herein lies the problem.
The offending party knows that he or she did something to offend, this much is clear. But said party is completely in the dark and left to guess what it is that he or she did. That is what I find ridiculous. So, the offender already made an ass out of him or herself when he or she offended, not to mention the awkward, non-reciprocated wave on the T, but now, said party has to go and approach the angered and say, "Hey so...why are you ignoring me?"
And that is just an awkward question. It shouldn't have to be asked. It should be the other way around. It should be, "I'm mad at you because.." but it's not. It's not because the offending party knows that, though he or she may be mad, the offended is probably madder because the offended is the one doing the ignoring anyways.
So why can't people just say, "Hey guess what? You really pissed me off and this is why. Now change or we just won't speak." or something nicer than that. To some extent anyway because being too nice often diminishes or simplifies the problem and you don't want that. That just leads to bigger problems later on.
But guess what? These problems would be avoided if people just talked to each other. What's wrong with talking? Why are people afraid of it? They talk enough shit about other people. It's clear that talking is an ability that humans all have. People are just stupid. And really, when anyone figures it out, please tell me.
On another note, I really miss Mest. Here's another video:
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