Sick and tired
Ok, so I just have to vent. So feel free to not read this post...or do, it doesn't matter either way. But if I don't vent I don't think I will be able to get to sleep tonight.
I am SICK and TIRED of people thinking that they know everything that is going on with our current situation and our past situations. I am SICK and TIRED of people thinking that we are just using my parents for a free ride and have no intentions of getting back out on our own. For the particular person I am talking about's information, we are currently and have ALWAYS been paying our own bills. The first time we lived with my parents we paid them, when we lived in Columbus we paid them - that includes rent, utilities etc. - and we are currently paying our own bills. These bills include: all of our credit cards, which are the devil and once we have paid them off we will have NO problem being self sufficient, but we have gotten ourselves into this trap in order to try and ease things on my parents and well to be quite honest to indulge in things that maybe we shouldn't have (such as the occasional going out to eat or buying Joey clothes or toys), Don's student loan, and occasionally we help buy food. We are going to be reapplying for WIC so once we get those benefits back it will also help to ease things. We have made sacrifices, and have had to do things that we didn't want to and that have burst our pride (such as WIC) we are going to be applying for medicaid as well as I think food stamps. The problem with that is that living with my parents is a slight issue with qualifying and Donny's business brings us up to just past what the cap is to qualify. So we shall see. Yes, Donny doesn't "work" or at least not the way SOME people THINK he should. But he IS trying. He has one very good client and he has been making $700-800 monthly/or bi monthly every now and then. And if he DID just get aany part or heck, even a full time job his paycheck would basically be just paying for childcare so we wouldn't be any farther ahead than we already are. Had what happened at Chase not happened, then we'd probably be very close to being back out on our own again and being independent of my parents. But unfortunately what happened happened and I have had to start at the very beginning again. It sucks, I hate it, I have bitterness every day about it...but I have to try my best to stop dwelling and move on. There is a slight possibility that I could get a promotion here soon which would help out a lot. But I refuse to hold my breath on that because you just never know with life. We are doing the best we can, maybe we could do better, but I think you can always do better. And I would just like to note that my mom and dad are not just helping us out or paying for everything for us, but they have been helping my brothers and their families out as best they can when they need it. I have amazing parents who would give the clothes off of their backs for their children. They would do anything to make sure that we are taken care of and not left out to dry. I wish some people would UNDERSTAND that but they seem completely intent on seeing the worst in my parents. Which I just don't get...seriously I have the most amazing caring parents...how anyone could think otherwise is a complete mystery. *sigh*
Anyway, that's about it. I just want to cry - our situation is NOT easy for me or my family and we are doing what we can to be back out on our own and not depending on my parents. It's going to take a lot of hard work, esp. since I had to start all over...but we will get there. And we will come out stronger for it. The world may knock us down but damnit we WILL get back up and every time it knocks us down we will continue to get back up. I just wish some people would grow up...it is always about you...
I am SICK and TIRED of people thinking that they know everything that is going on with our current situation and our past situations. I am SICK and TIRED of people thinking that we are just using my parents for a free ride and have no intentions of getting back out on our own. For the particular person I am talking about's information, we are currently and have ALWAYS been paying our own bills. The first time we lived with my parents we paid them, when we lived in Columbus we paid them - that includes rent, utilities etc. - and we are currently paying our own bills. These bills include: all of our credit cards, which are the devil and once we have paid them off we will have NO problem being self sufficient, but we have gotten ourselves into this trap in order to try and ease things on my parents and well to be quite honest to indulge in things that maybe we shouldn't have (such as the occasional going out to eat or buying Joey clothes or toys), Don's student loan, and occasionally we help buy food. We are going to be reapplying for WIC so once we get those benefits back it will also help to ease things. We have made sacrifices, and have had to do things that we didn't want to and that have burst our pride (such as WIC) we are going to be applying for medicaid as well as I think food stamps. The problem with that is that living with my parents is a slight issue with qualifying and Donny's business brings us up to just past what the cap is to qualify. So we shall see. Yes, Donny doesn't "work" or at least not the way SOME people THINK he should. But he IS trying. He has one very good client and he has been making $700-800 monthly/or bi monthly every now and then. And if he DID just get aany part or heck, even a full time job his paycheck would basically be just paying for childcare so we wouldn't be any farther ahead than we already are. Had what happened at Chase not happened, then we'd probably be very close to being back out on our own again and being independent of my parents. But unfortunately what happened happened and I have had to start at the very beginning again. It sucks, I hate it, I have bitterness every day about it...but I have to try my best to stop dwelling and move on. There is a slight possibility that I could get a promotion here soon which would help out a lot. But I refuse to hold my breath on that because you just never know with life. We are doing the best we can, maybe we could do better, but I think you can always do better. And I would just like to note that my mom and dad are not just helping us out or paying for everything for us, but they have been helping my brothers and their families out as best they can when they need it. I have amazing parents who would give the clothes off of their backs for their children. They would do anything to make sure that we are taken care of and not left out to dry. I wish some people would UNDERSTAND that but they seem completely intent on seeing the worst in my parents. Which I just don't get...seriously I have the most amazing caring parents...how anyone could think otherwise is a complete mystery. *sigh*
Anyway, that's about it. I just want to cry - our situation is NOT easy for me or my family and we are doing what we can to be back out on our own and not depending on my parents. It's going to take a lot of hard work, esp. since I had to start all over...but we will get there. And we will come out stronger for it. The world may knock us down but damnit we WILL get back up and every time it knocks us down we will continue to get back up. I just wish some people would grow up...it is always about you...